Here Are The Wedding Trends Literally No One Would Be Sad To See Go Away For Good

What's in one year could be out the next, and it couldn't be truer, especially when it comes to weddings. I recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to share the wedding trends they'd like to see retired for good. Here are the ones they're ready to say goodbye to:

1."Extremely elaborate weddings where the couple will be broke afterward. None of the people who love you care one bit if you have a wedding you can't afford. Nobody remembers all those details you agonize over, and the added costs for little details. Don't obsess, have a nice wedding, and save your money for a house!"

2."Any trends or traditions that involve the bride's or groom's side. It's a marriage, a union of families. There's usually enough drama without making that an issue, too. Pick a seat, not a side."

—Tamsyn from the United Kingdom

3."The cake smash. It's so demeaning, disgusting, and degrading. It was the one thing I told my now husband I would not tolerate."

4."Having a mashup nickname for the wedding couple. The overpriced and overhyped photos for your wedding web page. Telling people what colors they can and cannot wear to your wedding. The God-awful wedding party introductions. And lastly, inviting someone with kids to join the wedding party and then having no kids at your wedding!"

—markchaussee

5."The garter toss. It's so cringey! Why would I want my partner to go up my dress to get an undergarment that they would then throw into a group of men?! It's so awkward. I feel similarly about the bouquet toss, but at least no one is going under anyone’s clothes to get it."

6."Trash the dress. It's a no from me."

—jaclynjoanb

7."Wedding parties! All they are is a bunch of expensive drama. It is a hassle getting everyone to fittings, someone inevitably gets their feelings hurt, the speeches are always terrible, and bachelor/bachelorette parties are a recipe for disaster. My husband and I chose not to have any sort of wedding party and it was amazing! It saved us so much money and so much hassle."

8."I went to a wedding this year that was low budget and it was so romantic and a fun day. They paid attention to the right things and did without all the fancier extra stuff. It made me think maybe the three-course sit-down dinner, the fancy ballgowns for the bridesmaids, and the big fancy venue aren't needed. Perhaps the trend that needs to go is that weddings must cost a fortune and be extravagant, especially when a couple is starting their lives together. Starting it in debt or broke isn't exactly the most solid foundation!"

—Tammy from Devon, England

9."The money dance. It's an embarrassing cash grab."

10."Loooong speeches. People are hungry. Get on with it!"

—Tamsyn from Devon, England

11."Elaborate bachelor(ette) parties. Why not just spend that money on the actual wedding?"

12."I work in the wedding industry, and I don't get the point of the shoe game. Do it during your bridal shower or engagement party. You only get two hours to dance with your friends and family after the toasts, first dances, dinner, cake cutting, etc. Not too many in attendance will care who snores the loudest and who's the best cook."

—sleepinglight72

13."The country chic trend. Burlap is not a decoration. Mason jars are not vases!"

14."The garter retrieval/toss. It's so uncomfortable to watch! Ick."

—zara_black

15."Dividing wedding guests by bride or groom. I mean come on! Let them sit wherever. What is gained by this? Do we get to openly see who is more popular by counting heads?"

16."People reading poems to the bride and groom. Ick."

—Michael from the United Kingdom

17."Flower girls or just flowers thrown down the aisle. The petals are super expensive and get thrown out after three hours. And the little girls are sometimes forced into doing it because they are little and cute (I speak from experience). It's annoying and a waste."

18."The wedding itself. There are so many expectations to have this lavish ceremony and reception. Couples will go into severe debt for one day of celebration and a photo album they're never looking at again. Take that money and buy a house, invest in your future, take a huge vacation, or do anything more important than a party."

—Shaun from Illinois

19."The bride has to wear white or close to white (ivory, etc.) I kick myself for not wearing a color I would have preferred. I had a fall wedding and would have loved to wear a burgundy color gown, something more me. Heck, let the bride wear whatever she wants!"

20."Don't hate me, but the father giving the bride away and the 'who gives this woman to this man.' She's choosing to get married, and the parents aren't 'giving her away.' Marriage is a decision between the two people involved, and it has a very misogynistic undertone."

—Anonymous from North Carolina

21.And finally, "Pressuring the engaged couple to have a wedding that others feel they 'should' have rather than the one they want, and expecting everything to go exactly as planned. Neither is realistic."

Which wedding trends are you totally over? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.