Women, Tell Us The Subtle (And Not-So-Subtle) First Date "Red Flags" That Other Women Should Know

Liz Richardson
·1-min read

First dates can be awkward, memorable, nightmare-ish, charming, and so much more. But sometimes, "icks" — or "red flags" you just can't look past — are so apparent the first time you meet someone that it's clear things won't work out.

Cozy restaurant table set with wine glasses and a vase of pink flowers, on a red checkered tablecloth. Background softly blurred
Sammyvision / Getty Images

So, women, we want to hear from you: What are the first date "icks" that ruin any chance of a second date?

Two people enjoying drinks and laughing at an outdoor table in a lively setting, with string lights in the background
Alistair Berg / Getty Images

Like, maybe if you're looking for a long-term relationship, you feel it's an instant NO if your date starts making sexual comments or touching you when you barely even know each other.

Two people enjoy a meal at a rustic table
Filadendron / Getty Images

Perhaps you think of any signs of a lack of hygiene — like reaaaally bad breath.

Person with a neatly groomed beard and curled mustache, wearing a light shirt
Zdyma4 / Getty Images/iStockphoto

Maybe you meet online and discover that they're lying on their profile when you meet in person — like your date lying about their age or looking nothing like their photos.

Person using a smartphone with heart icons floating around, Big Ben in the background, suggesting engagement with social media
Oscar Wong / Getty Images

Or perhaps other icks can come up in conversation — like your date constantly complaining, bringing up their ex, or talking about themselves the entire time.

A woman in a suit listens intently to a man at a bar, with a glass of red wine in front of her
Portra / Getty Images

Or maybe it's a big ick when your date shows early signs of love bombing — like saying you're their "soulmate" the first time you've ever met — because, well, you do not know each other!

Roses lying on a concrete surface, with a fallen petal nearby, next to a textured wall background
Bjandrews / Getty Images / iStockphoto

Women, in the comments below, tell us the first date "icks" that ruin any chance of a second date — and be sure to explain why it's a red flag. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, feel free to use this Google form. Your response could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post.

Latest stories