People Are Sharing The "Point Of No Return" In A Relationship, And It Might Break Your Heart
No relationship is perfect, but sometimes two people are just *not* meant to be. When Reddit user Remarkable-Craft-239 asked, "What’s a 'point of no return' in a relationship?" many chimed in with their glaring red flags. Here are some of the most important things to look out for whether you're single or taken:
1."When I sit in my car for 15 minutes after work to mentally prepare myself to be criticized the moment I step in the apartment."
2."Apathy. Hate indicates that feelings are still there; they're just manifesting differently. But apathy? Apathy means you don't give a shit anymore. And that's death to relationships."
3."When you find yourself genuinely happy and at peace whenever your partner isn't around — realizing they're a dark cloud in your life."
4."When you can predict how they will hurt you; what their response will be about your pain; and when you realize sharing that with them will just make it worse rather than unifying against the problem."
5."My ex stopped caring about me the minute I regularly cooked and cleaned for her. If I wasn't acting as her maid or personal chef, she became an angry, resentful monster. If your partner wants nothing to do with you unless you wait on them hand and foot, leave. They have no respect for you as a person — you're just an object to them."
6."When you find yourself blamed for being hurt by them."
7."When spending time with your partner or even talking to them starts to feel like an obligation rather than a choice."
8."Eyerolling. It might look small, but if one side starts to show contempt towards the other, it means the respect is lost, and it's almost impossible to fix that."
9."Besides cheating, genuinely saying mean and hurtful things that can't be taken back. Even after the argument is over, the relationship is never the same since a certain level of trust is broken."
10."Resentment."
11."When everything they do annoys you, or you enjoy more time with yourself than with them. When fun things feel forced or always turn into arguments. When you miss how things used to be when it was good in the relationship."
12."When you see their name on your phone and feel this sinking feeling of dread, annoyance, and/or indifference. Then it's most kind to everyone to end it."
13."Yelling at me for things that aren't my fault."
14."When one person continues to escalate, throw tantrums, doesn't take accountability, and has no curiosity for their partner's perspective when asked to talk through something misaligned, confused, or unusual."
15."I would say the biggest is disdain. If you feel like that is how you are being responded to or if your reaction to your partner is at all disdainful — pack your bags and leave. There is no coming back from a basic lack of respect or empathy for what should be a partner that you encourage and support even when they do the dumb."
16."When you realize that you can't be you in the relationship. You're biting your tongue, making yourself small to be palatable and stay partnered. If nothing changes, you're looking at being this small, lesser person for the rest of your life. And somehow, your spine becomes steel, and you decide to leave."
17."No one here is talking about drastically different life goals. When that gets revealed, it can also be a point of no return."
18."When at least one party feels taken advantage of by the other. The moment you start taking the other person for granted and stop trying — that's the kiss of death."
19."Not upset. Not angry. Just done."
What's your "point of no return" in a relationship — good or bad? Share it in the comments below!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
