Women, Tell Us The "Icks" You Thought Would Fade In Time That Only Grew Into A Huge Problem

As women, I think we've all gone through the 'I can fix them' phase — or, even worse, clung to a false hope that a toxic partner will change.

Earlier on in my dating life, I ignored one too many "icks" for the sake of a connection (like, hello, why was I, a fully formed adult, dating someone who only contacted me through Snapchat???). I look back now and cringe.

So, if you've been in a similar boat, I want to hear about the "icks" from men you quietly ignored that actually turned out to be a huuge issue down the line.

Maybe your ex had a temper that you initially dismissed as "Oh, he just had a bad day," or "It's just a tough moment." A year into the relationship, you realized he actually enjoyed solving problems through fear, rage, and making others afraid. Your initial "ick" turned into a real problem, and now you always listen to your intuition from the jump.

Perhaps your ex-situationship flaked 30 minutes before your first date with an excuse you later learned was a lie. Despite being a bit of an initial red flag, you gave him the benefit of the doubt and rescheduled. You dated for a while until his flakiness went beyond "ick" and into total disrespect. He'd repeatedly cancel with excuse after excuse and make promises to make it up to you but never followed through.

Maybe the last guy you dated gave you the "ick" when you realized he was following a bunch of Instagram models and liking photos from a ton of girls, including his ex-flings, while you were still together. At first, you tried to brush it off and not let it bother you — until you found out it wasn't just the likes. He was also sliding into their DMs.

So, if you've ever had any "icks" you initially ignored that actually got way worse, let us know in the comments or at this anonymous form. Your responses could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post.