Woman Doesn't Want Stepson, 21, Bringing His Girlfriend on Their Family Vacation, Though Brother Gets to Invite Fiancée

A woman has taken to Reddit to share that her 21-year-old stepson wants to bring his new girlfriend on a family vacation — and she's not going to allow it.

In her Reddit post, the woman writes that she and her husband share 3-year-old twins, as well as two older sons — one 21 and one 22 — from his previous marriage. This year for Christmas, they gifted all of the kids a family trip to a resort.

"This trip would be a family vacation, including two overnights," she writes. "22-year-old stepson has a fiancé he’s been with for nearly 4 years, so we’ve invited her on previous 'gifted' trips and she’s coming along this time, too."

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She continues: "21-year-old stepson has a new 'girlfriend?' he wants to bring along. My husband has not met her, and I met her in passing one time when we happened to cross paths out at a restaurant. We figure they’ve maybe been dating/talking for a month or two."

But she's concerned, she adds, because "we don’t know her."

"The small children (twins, 3 years old) also have not met her, and with them being 3, it’s not like they’re always on their best behavior, likely adding stress to myself and my husband," she adds. "I also, wasn’t planning on getting her a Christmas gift (because I didn’t even know she existed), and this trip is essentially a Christmas gift."

But her stepson "isn’t happy we’ve told him no, and I’m a bit nervous he may either refuse to go (since she’s not allowed) or be in a terrible mood the whole time."

"If he refuses to go, I do worry my husband will cave and let him bring 'girlfriend' which will make the trip very uncomfortable for myself and likely my 3 year olds," she writes. "Helppppp."

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Commenters have suggested a compromise, with one writing: "It's perfectly reasonable to not want effectively a stranger along on a family trip. Up to you, but maybe consider letting him bring a long time friend instead? I imagine if his brother is hanging out with his fiancée, and you and your husband are dealing with toddlers - the trip could be pretty boring for him."

Adds another: "I bet part of the reason he’s so upset is that he’s bored with being the third wheel for each trip where his brother brings his fiancée. Hanging out with his dad, stepmom, and toddler siblings is probably not a great gift for a 21 year old. Bringing someone for him to hang out with is definitely necessary if OP insists on making this a family trip."

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