Biological Mother ‘Flips Out’ When Bride Chooses Adoptive Parents to Walk Her Down the Aisle
"I want my adoptive parents to do that since they raised me since I was 7 and actually have been present and supportive in my life," the bride-to-be wrote on Reddit
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Bride with her parents (stock image)A bride-to-be says her biological mother is angry that she wasn't chosen to walk her daughter down the aisle.
In a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" forum, the bride explained that her biological mother "flipped out, started crying, and became super guilt tripping" when she told her that she wanted her adoptive parents to walk her down the aisle instead of her.
Although the bride isn't actually engaged yet for financial reasons, she and her boyfriend have already started the wedding planning process, which includes compiling their guest list, wedding party and who will have the honor of accompanying the bride down the aisle.
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Family members at a wedding (stock image)"I don’t want the traditional 'father of the bride hands his daughter away' but I want both my parents to walk me down the aisle as they have done a lot for me," the poster wrote of her adoptive parents.
She claimed that her biological mother didn't raise her, nor contributed to her upbringing in any way. It wasn't until recently that she became more involved in her life.
"She actually ignored me for most of her life and was not committed to attending any milestones (HS or college graduation, birthdays, etc.)," the bride said. "Recently, in the last two years she has become a pretty frequent person in my life. We have resolved most differences, and moved forward. She even lives with me currently."
Although her biological mother will be invited to the wedding ceremony and have a seat at the family table during reception, the bride has firmly decided "she will not be walking me down the aisle."
"I want my adoptive parents to do that since they raised me since I was 7 and actually have been present and supportive in my life," she said.
The bride's biological mother did not take the decision well, as she immediately burst into tears and began "guilt tripping" her daughter. Now, the bride is wondering if she made the wrong decision.
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Upset bride (stock image)Redditors in the comments section told the woman planning her wedding that she made the right call based on the biological mother's outburst. They also questioned whether or not the biological mother has a "healthy presence" in her life based on her "manipulative" response.
"Your biological mom didn't raise you, end of story," one Reddit user commented in part. "You have parents. Your situation might be a bit more complicated in that your biological mom does have a presence in your life, and you value her, but it's relatively new and it doesn't suddenly flip a switch and make your entire upbringing have not happened."
"She was absent from the vast majority of your life until two years ago. Two years of contact does not erase her abandonment or all the work your adoptive parents did raising you," another Redditor wrote.
They continued: "She should honestly be understanding of your choice because it is a result of her actions and past choices. You are being very kind just by allowing her to be there and sitting with your family at the family table during the wedding and reception. If she is going to flip out and throw a tantrum like a petulant child over not walking you down the aisle, then I would strongly urge you to possibly reconsider her attendance on what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life."
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