A large number of us fantasise about our dream proposal with everything from a sentimental location to the date needing to be nothing short of perfect.
But what happens when you want to say “yes” but don’t like the engagement ring you’re given?
One woman took to Mumsnet with that very dilemma asking for advice on whether it would be ungrateful to admit to her other half that she wants a different ring.
The anonymous user wrote in a now-deleted post: “DP proposed and presented me with the ring he’d chosen – a diamond solitaire in white gold. I was so happy and excited to accept but was disappointed when I first saw the ring. The first word that entered my head was ‘small’.”
“There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se, as a diamond solitaire would have been my choice but it’s the whole thing – the colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.”
She later went on to add that her fiancé is on a six-figure salary and after finding the receipt, she knows that he paid £1,300 for the ring – “a lot less” than she would have hoped.
The user added, “Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked. As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewellery I wanted to really love it and I just don’t.”
In response to the divisive post, a large majority of users called out the bride-to-be for being “ungrateful”.
One user commented, “I think you sound grabby. Why is it about the size of the diamond? He’s making a commitment to you. It doesn’t have to be about money or ‘flashiness’.”
While another admitted that they’d be “disappointed” if they asked someone to marry them and their partner only cared about the aesthetic of the ring, as they wrote: “I mean someone wants to commit the rest of your lives together and you want to make a fuss over a ring?”
But others were more sympathetic with the Mumsnet user’s predicament.
One wrote: “I would prepare to be flamed and called grabby but if this is the man you intend to spend the rest of your life with you should be able to have a conversation about this.”
What would you do?
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