Man rants about his pregnant wife becoming 'lazy', Internet responds accordingly
Internet users are fuming after a dad-to-be complained online that since being pregnant his wife has become ‘lazy’.
According to the soon-to-be-father, since finding out that she is expecting, his wife has completely lost interest in working or doing housework.
What’s more, she’s also gone ahead and bought an expensive pushchair without asking him first. The cheek of it.
The drama kicked off when the dad-to-be, who’s a doctor, noticed that his wife was acting differently now that she’s pregnant.
“I want to support my wife as much as possible…but ever since we found out we were expecting, she has suddenly become very different,” he wrote in a Reddit post.
”She lost interest in work, we had recent fights about her wanting to quit medicine and stop working entirely to focus on caring for the kid. She no longer helps out around the home. I have to do all the laundry, cooking, dishwashing, trash, bathroom cleaning because she says she is tired all the time.
“It’s not that she is physically confining herself at home because she is feeling fatigued, she is often still out and about either hanging out with her co-fellows and girlfriends or sits at home watching TV.”
The husband went on to explain that both he and his wife are 32-year-old doctors who have very different workloads.
“I work a lot (currently 55-60 hours a week on average) and am an attending physician. My wife is still finishing her fellowship training,” he wrote.
This means that typically his wife works about 30 hours a week in a clinic.
Things really escalated after his wife decided to splash out on a pricey baby pram “without checking with me first.”
He felt this was unfair because he makes much more money than she does and is “the one shouldering 90 per cent of that expense.”
So the woman’s husband went online to gauge the opinion of other parents.
“Am I the complete d*ck here for saying that or what?” he finished his post.
And the overwhelming response may not have been what he wanted to hear.
“Yes, you make 90% of the money, but she’s shouldering 100% of GROWING A NEW HUMAN IN HER BODY, plus the pain suffering and permanent changes to her health that will happen as she goes along,” one user wrote.
“Oh, and the actual risk of dying during childbirth. You have no idea what this feels like from the inside.
“That said, YES, you and she need to have a productive discussion, because your feelings of frustration are valid. However, having no energy and being an hormonal mess during pregnancy is not being ‘lazy’.”
“YTA for calling her lazy,” another agreed. “Pregnancy throws a woman’s body totally out of whack, and if she says she is exhausted you need to believe her.”
“Are you really telling us that you’re not capable of taking care of your wife for the 8 months she’s pregnant compared to the rest of your lives?” another user commented.
“It sounds like you’re doing and helping with chores but are you helping her with her maternity at all?”
“Having a baby is hard on both parents,” another parent offered. “It’s hard on her because there’s a human growing inside her, stealing all of her energy and giving her a ton of hormones. It’s hard on you because you have to deal with her. Guess which one is harder. She carries the kid, you offer support; that’s the deal.”
But some people thought that the man had a point.
“Being pregnant most certainly doesn’t mean you can up and quit on life and expect everything to be done for you,” one user wrote. “A stay-at-home-mom, if that is what she suddenly sees herself as, doesn’t just lay around like a lump all day.”
“While pregnancy is physically draining, if you can go mingle with friends you can do the dishes,” another Reddit user commented. “Now if she was not doing anything at all then yes, maybe be more sympathetic, but it seems like she is picking and choosing when she is ‘so exhausted’ which is not fair.”
It isn’t the first time pregnancy has sparked a debate online recently. Last week a women went online to vent her frustration about her sister stealing her thunder after announcing she was pregnant just after she herself had given birth.
The woman took to Mumsnet to reveal how disappointed she was that her sibling ‘ruined her special moment’ and explaining that they haven’t spoken since the whole thing went down.
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