Buckle up! Here's your expert guide to the cowgirl sex position
Sex positions can run the gamut, from 'vanilla' to the slightly, er, 'spicier'. And yet, we keep coming back to our old favourites. Case in point: the cowgirl sex position, one of the most common, with 12.1k searching for it every month. This one is loved universally for its ability to mutually satisfy and give you the power to take control.
Never tried it or feel slightly intimidated by the notion? WH spoke to the sexperts to get the low down on exactly how to do the move, plus six tips and three variations of the cowgirl position. Strap in.
Meet the experts: April Masini, author of Think and Date Like a Man; Rebecca Rosenblat, sex therapist and the author of Seducing Your Man; Dr Sandor Gardos, sex therapist and founder of MyPleasure.com, an online site that provides adult toys and education; Dr Yvonne K Fulbright, Women’s Health US sex and relationships advisor; Dr Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever.
(Note: while this refers to sex between a woman or a person with a vagina, and a man or a person with a penis, there is obviously no reason why any gender pairing, with the right accessories, can't have a great time with this one.)
What is the cowgirl sex position?
The penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner straddles them.
To get into position, first, kneel on top of them, using your hands to gently (or roughly, if you're feeling a bit 50 Shades) push off their chest and slide up and down their thighs.
You can always lean back and support yourself on their thighs, to give them a serious view.
What are the benefits of the cowgirl position?
There are lots of plus points to trying this move out.
1. You're in the dominant position
You’ll therefore delay their climax and intensify yours. You can also dictate the pace and rhythm, as well as the penetration. Slow versus fast, deeper versus shallow – you can switch it up however you like.
2. It's a good position for clitoral stimulation
Make sure they put their hands to work – you're far more likely to come.
3. It's extra erotic
Factor in the eye contact from you looking down, and this one is even more intimate.
6 tips for the cowgirl sex position
1. Switch up your speed
Slow down or speed up the pace of their thrusts to keep your session interesting. You're on top, so you're in control.
2. Try a toy
Bringing a a sex toy into your ply can add an exciting new dimension. A bullet vibrator, for instance, can dial up your clitoral stimulation.
3. Reverse it
Give them a real show. Turn around on your partner, so that you are still in cowgirl but are now facing their feet. Hey, presto: the reverse cowgirl.
4. Feeling tired? Use your hips
This position can get tiring if you're constantly squatting up and down. If you feel yourself getting tired, slow things down and focus on your hip movements by rocking your hips back and forth in a grinding motion on your partner's pelvic bone. You can also try raising one knee, while keeping the other in a kneeling position, to take some of the pressure off your glutes. Et voilà – more cowgirl pleasure for all.
5. Take even more control
Hold your partner's hands above their head, or restrain them using cuffs, for a new, more dominant take on this position. Be sure to have a chat about it before hand, though, if you do want to take it in this direction. Consent is sexy, kids.
6. Ask your partner to do some work
The giver can thrust from below, hold the receiver's hips for stability or sit up.
Variations of the cowgirl position
1. Reverse cowgirl
The receiver straddles the giver facing away from them, towards their feet.
2. Horizontal cowgirl
Like the cowgirl, but the receiver lies down on the giver so their chests touch.
3. Cowgirl on a chair
The giver sits on a chair and the receiver sits on their lap, facing them
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