Woman Says She'll Be 'Upset Forever' After Husband of 8 Years Confesses He Doesn’t Want to Have Children

Discovering her husband has been delaying trying for a baby because he secretly doesn’t want children has left one woman heartbroken.

On Sunday, Feb. 23, the 37-year-old woman vented about the situation on the UK-based forum Mumsnet, explaining that she has been married to her husband for eight of the 14 years they’ve been together. She confessed that if her husband had told her at the start of their relationship that he didn’t want children she would’ve ended things despite being “madly in love” with him.

“A year before we got married, my husband said we would start ttc [trying to conceive] after our honeymoon,” she wrote on Mumsnet. “After we had been on our honeymoon, he said he wasn't ready to have children yet, so he said ‘We'll wait till next year’ and I was ok with that, and we continued to talk about future children."

She added, “A year after that when I asked him if we could start trying, he said the same thing, and he has been saying that every year."

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The woman said they were at a friend’s house when her husband suddenly confessed to being unsure if he ever wanted to have children.

He suggested waiting another three years to decide if they should start a family.

“If we wait another 3 years I will be 40, and I've heard that you have less chance of getting pregnant after 40,” the Mumsnet user said.

“Even if I do start trying at the time and I do get pregnant, there is a big chance that we will only have 1 child and I want to have 3 children, 2 would be enough but to me, only having 1 child is just as sad as not having any children at all,” she continued.

The woman said she had been crying continuously since her husband’s confession and was unlikely to be able to sleep that night.

She added, “I feel that I'll be upset forever unless I do get pregnant, so I feel we will need to either start trying now or I'll need to break up with him now. What would be the best thing to do?”

The majority of responses to the post advised the woman to express her feelings to her husband and find a new partner if he’s unwilling to start a family now.

“He's hoping that in three years it will be too late for you,” one person commented. “If you're happy to go it alone then crack on and have a baby without him. Don't give up your dream of motherhood for a man that has led you on for years. You'll regret it and just come to resent him."

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Another chimed in, saying, “I couldn't forgive this. Absolute deal breaker for me. I'd leave. He's been stringing you along for years.”

Others argued it was better for the woman to have a child on her own than to convince her husband to be a father.

“You have to leave him asap if you need children,” a commenter said. “Don’t give him an ultimatum and bring kids into the world with a reluctant father. Tell him you’re leaving and let that focus his mind on whether he’s willing to have kids to keep you.”

Agreeing, another person replied to the post, “I am so sorry. You must be angry and devastated. If you want children I'd be arranging fertility treatment now whilst sorting out your separation. You do not need a partner to have a child."

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