Woman Is ‘Sick and Tired’ of Her Unemployed Nephew After He's Been Living with Her for 6 Months: 'He Refuses to Go Back Home'

A woman says she is “sick and tired” of her unemployed nephew living in her home — and she’s unsure of what to do about it.

The woman recently detailed her situation on the “Am I Being Unreasonable” forum on the U.K. site Mumsnet, a place where people can seek advice about interpersonal dilemmas. In her post — which she titled “I don’t like my nephew” — the platform user shared that her 23-year-old nephew moved into her home six months ago as a “stop gap” measure until he found a job.

“We offered to help him out because things completely broke down at home and he had nowhere else to go,” she wrote, noting that the arrangement was only supposed to last “a few months.”

However, she goes on to write that her nephew is “combative, argues with absolutely everything and doesn't respect anything I say,” adding that the nephew — whom she says is a millennial — considers her a “pathetic” old person.

The poster also says that she and her husband have offered to get her nephew "in touch with our friend who works in his industry,” but he refuses, saying he “doesn’t want to do that.” She says they also suggested that he print out some resumés and pass them out at local restaurants and shops — to which she says he responded: “That's so old fashioned no one does that anymore.” Instead, she claims he spends all day “chatting” with friends and playing games and does nothing to help around the house — despite the fact that she is busy caring for a toddler and a newborn.

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She says that her husband has now asked the nephew to pay 300 pounds (about $377) per month in rent and gradually increase the amount until it reaches market price.

“I've said my doors are always open, I'm your aunty and I love you, that's what I'm here for. But bloody hell am I close to closing/ slamming those doors shut. He refuses to go back home, or to his gran's, he just wants to live here,” she added.

She continued: “I've just got to a point now I hate having him around. I hate seeing him in the 'morning' (today he woke up at 2.30pm).[...] And the worst thing is I'm now convinced I'm going to be a horrid mother to teenagers because I don't have patience for this.”

The woman concludes her post by asking others if she’s being unreasonable.

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The vast majority of community members flocked to the woman’s defense — but also said they think it’s time she asserts some firm boundaries.

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“You need to stop accepting this and arrange a meeting. He is an adult and he needs to step up and act like one,” wrote one person before adding, “The agreement was that he stayed for a few months whilst he looked for a job. He has outstayed his welcome and is not holding up his end of the bargain. Don’t get angry, just make some new plans and steps he [must agree] to that get reviewed. Discuss respect and how he can improve his respectful behavior.”

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“You took him in and gave him time to get a job. It’s not your fault he hasn’t made the most of the opportunity. Give him two months written notice to move out. Make sure he understands that he will be leaving at [the] end of the two months regardless of whether he has somewhere to go and a job,” added another.

Others noted that enabling his current behavior isn’t actually helping him in the long run.

“You've opened the door and supported him for almost 6 months. You are not doing him any favors by keeping this arrangement long term. It's enabling his behavior,” wrote a commenter.

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