Woman Says She Walked Out of a First Date After the Guy’s Mom Showed Up: ‘I Couldn’t Take It’
"It was like an interview, not a date," the 21-year-old woman said in a Reddit post
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Stock image of a dateA woman said that a date she went on got awkward when her suitor invited his mother to tag along.
In a recent post on the "Am I the A------" subreddit, the woman, 21, said she recently matched with a guy, 25, on a dating app. "Let’s call him Jake," she wrote.
"We’d been chatting for a few weeks, and he seemed like a solid guy — funny, good taste in music, and even remembered I loved Italian food," she continued. "He planned the date at this nice little spot in Dallas, which I thought was sweet."
At first, everything seemed pretty normal.
"He’s already there, we hug, and he even complimented my outfit," she wrote. "But like five minutes after I sit down, this older woman walks in. Jake stands up, waves her over, and says, 'This is my mom!' "
The woman shared that she was in disbelief as her date’s mother proceeded to introduce herself.
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"I kind of laugh nervously and say, 'Oh, I didn’t know you were bringing anyone,' and he goes, 'Oh, she just wanted to meet you. Don’t worry — it’s not a big deal,' " she recalled.
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As the date went on, the woman said his mom stayed at the table and made herself comfortable by ordering wine and asking her questions.
"It was like an interview, not a date. Jake barely said anything. He just smiled and kept nodding like this was all normal," she wrote.
Finally, after roughly 20 minutes, the woman left.
"I couldn't couldn’t take it anymore," she said, sharing that she told her date that she was not feeling well and ended up breaking things off with him via text later.
But now, in the aftermath, she said she feels “kinda bad.”
"My roommate says I did the right thing because honestly, who brings their mom to a first date?" she wrote. "But my coworker said it was rude to just leave and that maybe his mom was just super close to him or nervous for him or whatever."
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The woman was met with plenty of support in the comments section.
"You’re definitely not in the wrong here. Bringing his mom to a first date without warning is a major red flag," read one reply. "First dates are about getting to know each other, not being grilled by someone’s parent. You politely excused yourself, which is fair given the situation. Don’t feel bad — you dodged an awkward future!"
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"It’s absurd that he would bring her," added another commenter. "That is a very strange dynamic. You did what most anyone else would have done."
However, another Redditor suggested that if the woman was willing, she could offer her date one last piece of advice.
"If he's chill over text let him know the mom thing is not normal," the wrote. "Maybe he doesn't know!"
