Accountant retrains as sex coach after husband is unfaithful to her
A woman has revealed how her divorce led to a complete career change, as she left behind her job as corporate accountant to become a sex coach.
Lindsey Hall, 36, from Sheffield, South Yorkshire, says she is now thriving in her new line of work, helping other women become more sexually empowered after previously believing she could have a healthy relationship without sex.
Hall describes thinking of her life in two stages: pre-divorce and post-divorce, and claims she now feels fun, relaxed and confident following the end of her marriage.
It was learning the shattering news her husband had been unfaithful to her, in January 2020, that initially led to the couple's split.
While Hall admits that the relationship had been rocky, the revelation from her then husband came out of the blue and she was left devastated.
"It felt like my world had stopped when my ex told me about the cheating," she explains. "I had this intense feeling of 'What do I do now?'
"However, we always knew that we wanted to stay friendly for the sake of the girls and we now have a healthy co-parenting relationship."
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Despite unexpectedly becoming a single mum to her two young daughters, and feeling like her world was falling apart, Hall says she has now managed to turn her life around and says she is happier than ever.
But Hall says she never imagined that her divorce would lead to her getting a whole new "lease of life".
"People think of divorce as an ending or failure," she explains. "I don't believe in the term 'failed marriages' in the slightest.
"My marriage was beautiful while it was happening, but it was time for it to end and now I've got a beautiful new beginning.
"I don't have any bitterness or resentment towards my ex," Hall continues. "It had to happen this way because anything less subtle than cheating would have made it even more drawn out.
"I see it as an opportunity to shake things up and show me how I want to show up for myself and in my next relationship.
"It was an explosive event that shook me awake and encourage me to live life with intention.
"I'm happier now than I have been in years, and I wouldn't change a thing."
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Hall says that following her divorce she had something of a sexual awakening.
"I realised that I wanted a much healthier attitude towards sex when I went into another relationship," she explains.
"Previously, I didn’t want sex and I didn’t realise that this was such a big issue. I thought that I could still have a healthy, happy relationship but it did cause rifts between us.
"My ex-husband thought it was important and I didn’t.
"But now, I want to want to have sex."
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Hall says her personal realisation led to her wanting to teach others the same lessons.
"I had some healing to do around sex and it was life-changing for me," she explains. "So I decided that I wanted to be a coach too and help other women the way it I had been helped."
The end of her relationship has seen some other changes for Hall too.
"Before my divorce, I was a control freak about everything, I strictly followed rules, only had organised fun, and anything unexpected would throw me off," she says.
"I was uptight all the time, but I am so different now. I'm relaxed, and I trust things are going to work out.
"I lead life in a way that’s as stress-less as possible."
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And Hall is even exploring getting into new relationships.
"I've been in the dating world a year now and it is so much fun," she says. "I love seeing who is out there in the world and learning more about myself, however, I am still waiting for my next man, but having fun in the meantime.
"I am trusting that the right person for me will find me and that it is not about making someone like me."
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