Tracee Ellis Ross just made a brilliant point about being single

Sarah Ilston
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Photo credit: Rodin Eckenroth
Photo credit: Rodin Eckenroth

From Red Online

Tracee Ellis Ross has revealed in a recent interview that not only is she happily single, but she thrives on her own company and has cultivated 'a productive relationship with loneliness'.

Speaking to Shape magazine – for whom she is the current cover star – the Black-ish star revealed that her 'goal is to have an experience with [herself] that is whole,' regardless of being in a relationship or not. She went on to say that being in a wonderful relationship doesn't matter if you don't know how to 'reap the joy' of the connection you have.

Despite being perfectly happy on her own, 48-year-old Ross wouldn't rule out romance if it came along, but it would have to positively add to her existence and the 'joyful solitude' she currently enjoys.

'In my wonderful and robust experience of being single, I have learned to have a productive relationship with loneliness and an intensely juicy relationship with my joyful solitude—I really enjoy my company,' she explained.

Pre-pandemic, Ross – whose mother is soul superstar Diana Ross – could be found donning her finest outfit, taking herself out to dinner for a 'beautiful meal and a glass of wine.' And now?

'Well, I can't do that,' she admitted. 'But you know what? I can do that at home. I make a beautiful plate. I set it out and have a glorious meal. I make my bed every morning.'

She said this all part of 'actively' loving herself. 'I believe that love is an action: You get back what you put in'.

Ross also admitted she used to spend so much time trying to be 'perfect', that she ended up missing out on the fact that this could be exactly what the universe has planned for her. She then realised that striving for perfection isn't realistic, and is a recipe for disaster.

'Bad feelings come up,' she said, revealing that she started toying with the idea of: 'What if the universe is conspiring for good? Not necessarily mine, but what if I don't have the full picture here? What if this is all OK?'

'That was the start of a turning point. If you keep putting good stuff in your cup, eventually it overflows. And you'll be like, "Oh, I need a new container".'

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