These Are The Top 10 Places Americans Fantasize About Having Sex
When it comes to sex, it seems that quite a few of us are thinking outside the bedroom.
The sexual wellness company Lovehoney surveyed 2,000 U.S. adults about the places they fantasize about having sex, and these were the most dreamt-about locations.
In the shower
On the beach
In a car
In a pool
In the ocean
On top of a pool table
At work
In a sauna
In a limo
In a friend or family member's homeClinical sexologist and sexuality educator Lawrence Siegel told HuffPost that the results of this survey are pretty consistent with other findings on this topic. He was, however, surprised by a few locations that didn’t make the list— like an airplane bathroom, hot tub, hotel balcony, store dressing room or at a bar or club, he said.
So what makes the idea of sex outside of the bedroom so hot anyway?
Los Angeles sex therapist Nazanin Moali, host of the Sexology podcast, was also surprised that the Mile-High Club wasn’t mentioned, as her clients and audience often say it’s one of their sexual bucket-list items.
One of the main reasons: new places invite a sense of novelty. Daydreaming about having sex (or actually having sex) somewhere other than your own bed adds a little spice and excitement.
“One of the best things about doing something new is that it’s different,” Siegel said. “Oftentimes, how much fun it is is based on how different it is.”
Siegel added, “Fantasizing about different locations can be a way to break out of one’s sexual routine and shake things up a bit. Sex play outside the bedroom is a good start — kitchen, on top of the washing machine, backyard, etc.”
For others, the idea of having sex in a public place where there’s a risk of getting caught or being seen is arousing, which can “amp up the intensity of a sexual experience by adding in an element of the taboo,” sex researcher Justin Lehmiller previously told Lovehoney.
But location is only one part of what makes a fantasy intriguing, Moali noted. Other factors like the context and the person (or people) involved “play a significant role in shaping the fantasy’s appeal,” she said.
For example, many of her clients and podcast listeners are professionals over the age of 30 who frequently share fantasies about sex in the workplace, Moali said.
“This scenario not only involves breaking societal norms but also incorporates inherent power dynamics, which can make it feel more erotically charged,” she said.
Similarly, folks commonly fantasize about having sex in clubs or restaurants, Moali said.
“These settings introduce an element of novelty while also offering the potential for incorporating strangers or group sex, which are recurring themes in sexual fantasies,” Moali said. “These factors contribute to the excitement and appeal of these locations.”
It’s also worth mentioning that just because someone has a fantasy — whether that’s getting it on at the beach or engaging in group sex — doesn’t necessarily mean they have an interest in acting on it in real life.
“A fantasy is first and foremost a ‘thought,’ which means it doesn’t have to become an actual thing you do, and most of my patients don’t actually want their fantasies to come true,” sex therapist Ian Kerner previously told HuffPost. “They just want to enjoy them in the comfort of their own erotic imagination or share them with a partner.”
One of the great things about fantasies is that they’re a “safe place with virtually no consequences” to do “whatever we can construct in our minds,” Siegel said. For example, having sex at the office could get you fired. But in your imagination, you can explore this fantasy without the risk. This article originally appeared on HuffPost.
