Pregnant Woman Wants to Skip Sister's Wedding After Sister Stole Her Baby Name — and Used It for Her Dog
The woman was set to be her sister's maid of honor
A woman on Reddit is at a loss after her sister stole her favorite baby name to use for a dog
The woman has spoken to her sister and family about the issue, but they say she is being "dramatic" and needs to let it go
Now, the woman says she doesn't want to be her sister's maid of honor
A mom-to-be says she won't go to her sister's wedding after the sister stole the name she planned to use for her child — and used it to name her dog.
In an anonymous post on Reddit, the woman writes that she and her husband are expecting their first child "after years of trying."
"It’s been a really emotional journey—there were some fertility struggles, a miscarriage last year, and honestly, we weren’t sure if we’d ever get here. But now I’m six months along with a healthy baby girl, and we’re over the moon," she adds.
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She continues: "Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve had a favorite name: Lila. It’s my dream name for a daughter, and I’ve talked about it so many times that my whole family knows it’s 'my' name. It has a special meaning to me—my late grandmother was named Delilah, and it’s my way of honoring her. My husband loves the name too, so we decided pretty early on that this would be our baby girl’s name."
Six months ago, the woman's younger sister, Emma, got a golden retriever puppy — and the woman's hopes for naming her child "Lila" were dashed.
"We were all excited for her—she’s always been an animal lover and was thrilled to finally get her own dog," the woman writes of her sister. "But when she introduced us to the puppy, she casually said, 'This is Lila!' "
While the woman initially thought her sister was joking, she soon learned that she was not.
"She just shrugged and said, 'It’s a name, not a copyright. I thought it was cute for a dog,' " the woman writes. "I was honestly stunned. I didn’t want to make a big scene, so I let it go in the moment, but it really bothered me."
Now, months later, the name has become associated with the dog, but the woman still wants to use it for her future child.
"At my baby shower last month, I was talking to some family members about the nursery, and when I mentioned naming the baby Lila, my aunt literally laughed and said, 'You’re not actually naming your baby after Emma’s dog, right?' " she writes.
Adding that she "felt humiliated," the woman writes that she sat her sister down privately, to tell her how she was feeling.
"I explained how important the name is to me, how it’s tied to Grandma, and how much it means to me after everything we’ve been through to have this baby," she writes. "Emma rolled her eyes and said, 'Oh my god, you’re seriously still mad about this? It’s just a dog’s name. You don’t own Lila.' "
The post continues: "I told her that while I’m still going to name my daughter Lila, she’s made it really awkward for me. She laughed and said, 'Awkward for you, not for me!' "
Now, Emma is soon to get married and the woman is supposed to be her maid of honor – but she no longer wants to be.
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A golden retriever puppy"I don’t want to stand up there and celebrate her when I feel like she doesn’t respect me or care about my feelings," she writes. "Last week, I told her that I wasn’t sure I could attend the wedding because of how hurt I’ve been about everything."
Emma, she adds, "lost it."
"She called me selfish and accused me of 'ruining her big day' over something as 'stupid' as a name. She even told me, 'You’re the one making this a thing. Nobody cares except you.' My parents are siding with her, saying I’m being 'petty and hormonal' and need to let it go because 'family is more important than a name.' "
Now, the woman writes, she feels "torn."
"I know skipping her wedding is a huge deal, and I don’t want to cause a permanent rift, but I also feel like Emma has completely dismissed my feelings and made this whole situation worse," she writes.
Commenters have recommended the woman stick to her guns, with one offering, "I would call the baby Delilah, exactly like grandma's name, and I would go low contact with the sister. Emma can kick rocks and find someone else to be her maid of honor."
Another commenter gave more blunt advice: "Get a pet snake, call her Emma."
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