How to set boundaries this Christmas, as 30% say festive pressure impacts their mental health

Laura Hampson
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An expert has revealed exactly how to set boundaries to protect your mental health this Christmas. (Getty Images)

While Christmas is a time of joy, it can also be a time of stress with more than half of Brits admitting that the festive period makes them feel ‘pressured’.

A new survey of 2,000 British adults has found that as many as 53% feel a sense of pressure at Christmas, with 30% saying that this demand can take a toll on their mental health.

The survey, from Vitality, found that buying presents for others was the biggest cause of pressure over the festive period, followed by financial concerns, and ensuring that everyone else was having a good time.

A further 24% said that the stress from the Christmas period physically manifested into exhaustion, headaches, migraines, and enduring stomach issues.

To cope with these pressures, 28% of Brits say they are budgeting money this Christmas, while 23% plan to take time out for themselves, and 18% want to spend more time with family and friends.

"While the majority of people enjoy the festive period and what comes with it, it’s important to recognise that this time of year also brings about many challenges and mixed emotions, which means we need to prioritise our health and wellbeing," Yetunde Bankole, Lead Mental Health and Wellbeing Coach at Vitality, says.

"If you are feeling extra pressure, take some time out and try and spend some time outdoors and do something positive for your health and wellbeing – going for a walk and clearing your mind can really help."

One of the best ways to ensure that you take the pressure off this season is to set firm boundaries.

Bankole says that, while saying ‘no’ can feel uncomfortable at first, it’s a vital tool to help you prioritise your time and energy.

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You don't have to say yes to every invitation this festive season. (Getty Images)

"You don’t have to agree to every invitation, instead learn to say no and choose the events that matter most to you - politely declining those that feel overwhelming or obligatory," she suggests.

"Have a think about what your priorities are this season and then keep them in mind when you’re invited to events or asked to do something."

"Setting boundaries is about understanding your needs and advocating for them – you’re not being rude by doing so and you shouldn’t feel guilty," Bankole says.

"Chances are you’re communicating these to loved ones who already want what’s best for you, so be honest and be consistent. For instance, if going to the gym regularly, or going sober, will help keep you feeling healthy then prioritise that. Suggest an activity that doesn’t involve drinking, or ask to move your plans to a time that lets you get your gym session in. It’s not unreasonable and people will understand."

While the cold, winter months make it easier to let physical activities slide, Bankole says it’s imperative you priorities getting outdoors and moving when you can.

"It’s important to earmark what’s important to you and prioritise time to do the things that bring you joy and keep you mentally and physically well," she adds.

"Your diary can look unmanageable this time of year, so identify when you can have time to yourself – whether that’s a full day, a morning, or an afternoon," she explains.

"It’s time that should be spent relaxing and recharging, which means it’s not when you quickly get your washing done or run to the shops no matter how tempting! It’s about making time just for you, and by scheduling regular breaks you’ll find you have more energy to enjoy the other social commitments you do make."

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It's important to plan rest days at Christmas. (Getty Images)

Just because you want to do everything doesn’t mean you can, and it’s OK to not attend every event you get an invite to.

"You simply can’t do everything and stay healthy,” Bankole says. "Setting realistic expectations, knowing your limits, and being honest with yourself will help you avoid burnout, stay healthy, and ultimately boost the fun you do have."

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