How to find the G-spot plus other erogenous zones explained
Everything you need to know about the infamous pleasure zone – and other erotic hotspots
The G-spot is the holy grail of sexual pleasure but have you ever wondered what the G-spot actually is? What makes it such a notorious erogenous zone? And, most importantly, how do you find it?
Otherwise known as the Gräfenberg spot, it is named after German gynaecologist and sex researcher, Ernst Gräfenberg (we imagine he was loving his work…)
So, what are the other erogenous zones that might be fun to explore on your way to, and around, the big G? We asked our expert Jennifer Surch, founder of the Academy For Modern Tantra,for some answers.
What is the G-spot?
"The G-spot is an ultra-sensitive part of your vagina," says Surch. "However, rather than being a distinct part of your anatomy, like a button that you can pinpoint, the G-spot is an area."
In fact, many sexologists believe it is part of your whole clitoral network, the clitoris being not just the pea-sized nub you can see between your inner labia (this is just the tip), but the two 'roots' leading from it, that can be up to four inches long.
"Basically, the whole of this area counts as the G-spot," adds Surch.
Where is the G-spot?
"The female G-spot is located on the anterior vaginal wall, which is the side of the vagina facing towards the front of the body, about 1-2 inches inside the vagina," she says.
Do men have a G-spot?
"Yes, a man’s G-spot is the prostate, a small gland located just below the bladder and in front of the rectum," explains Surch. "It can be accessed through the rectal wall and stimulated by applying pressure or gentle massage to the perineum, which is the area between the scrotum and the anus."
Read more: Almost half of sexually active women in the UK have faked an orgasm – Yahoo Life UK, 6-min read
How can you find the female G-spot?
If you are exploring with a partner, Surch suggests trying a tantric 'yoni massage' to find this hidden G-em (although you could also do this on your own.) 'Yoni' is the tantric word for the female genitalia.
"The yoni massage includes many techniques, involving massaging the inner thighs, the inner and outer labia, the clitoris, vulva, all around the perineum and the whole vagina," says Surch.
"Explore the erogenous zone of the vaginal wall with clockwise movements with the finger or fingers. To specifically find the G-spot, insert one or two fingers into the vagina with your palm facing upward, then make a 'come hither' motion with your fingers. The G-spot may feel slightly rough or textured compared to the surrounding vaginal tissue."
Another suggestion from Surch is to "place the palm against the clitoris with the middle finger inserted, but this time held rigid (so not moving). The movement is in the rhythm of the palm against the clitoris. In turn, the middle finger will rhythmically massage the G-spot."
"Another way of finding your G spot, is through the tantric sex position of 'Yab-Yum'. For this, sit facing each other. Sit on top of your partner (him inside you) and wrap your legs around your partner’s waist. In this position, you can achieve deep penetration and the woman can move her body rhythmically, being in control of each movement, finding her exact pleasure spots," adds Surch.
A surefire way to sexual nirvana and connection with your partner and your body...
Why is the G-spot so sensitive?
"Because it is made of erectile tissue," says Surch. "When aroused, this tissue can become engorged with blood, causing the G-spot to become even more sensitive and responsive to touch."
"Also, the G-spot is right next to the Skene's glands," she continues. "These glands, often referred to as the female prostate, are located around the urethra. When the G-spot is stimulated, it can put pressure on these glands, leading to intense sensations and even squirting (ejaculation) for some women."
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What are the other erogenous zones?
It's important to remember that the G-spot is by no means the be all and end all. There are so many other pleasure zones to explore.
To find yours and your partner's, our expert suggests taking it in turns to give your partner a tantric ritual experience. "You can give them a fusion of sensations, by using things like feathers, silk, the breath and a make-up or pastry brush on their skin," says Surch.
If you're up for something new, she 'also has another unusual idea...
"You can also use a gong for this ritual. By placing the gong near the yoni area and banging it, the gong creates gorgeous ripples of vibrations through the body. You can also place the gong actually on top of the pelvic bone and bang it for wonderful, humming, erotic vibrations."
"As you work your way around their body, ask your partner to raise their fingers to indicate to you how good the sensation is between one and ten," she continues.
"This way you can create a 'pleasure map,’" explains Surch. "As a symphony of sensations unfolds you can really get to know your own and your partner’s vast erogenous tapestry of individual faves."
In the process, you may even discover erogenous zones on your partner – and yourself – that you didn’t know existed.
Which brings us onto….
Male erogenous zones*
*Bear in mind, they may not be erogenous for everyone...
1. Perineum
"The perineum is very erogenous," says Surch. "This is because, the pudendal nerve, which supplies the perineum, carries sensory information to the whole genital area in both men and women, as well as controlling the muscles responsible for arousal and orgasm."
"It contains a high concentration of nerve endings, so when lightly brushed with your make-up brush can send a tingling cascade of ripples through every fibre."
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2. Back of knees
"Try using the light strokes of a feather on the back of the knees, another home to a cluster of nerves and blood vessels that are a gateway to pleasure," she suggests.
3. Ears and neck
"Kissing your partner's ears and neck when making love is very erotic," says Surch. "Make sure you breathe deep, warm breaths and whisper your partner's name as this will reach into the depths of their soul."
4. Feet
"Indulge in the art of foot massage. Pampering and kissing each toe and tracing circles along the arches can be exquisite and will heighten the anticipation of pleasure preluding to sex," suggests Surch.
She explains the feet are real erogenous zones for some people, because of all the nerves there. “The sensory signals from foot stimulation can create pleasurable sensations throughout the body,” she says.
"This is because the brain’s sensory map can sometimes create cross-wiring or overlapping sensations. This means that stimulation of one area, such as the feet, can be interpreted by the brain as connected to other erogenous zones in the body."
5. Buttocks
"A light stroking of the buttocks, and rubbing the base of the spine can be heaven for a man," explains Surch. "This is because this makes the 'kundalini' energy (male sexual energy in Tantra) rise up the man’s spinal column, up the back of his neck to his crown. If he puts his tongue to the roof of his mouth, he can join this energy channel, making the sensations run down the front of his body too." Enjoy!
