Guest Is 'Uninvited' from Friend's Destination Wedding After Spending More Than $1K on Flight

The guest wrote on Reddit that she felt "so embarrassed" about the prospect of telling her friends and family that her invitation had been rescinded

A person was taken aback when their friend "uninvited" them to her destination wedding — after they shelled out more than $1,000 for an overseas flight.

In a recent post shared to Reddit on Sunday, Aug. 25, the would-be guest, who said they are located somewhere in North America, explained that the bride-to-be and friend from university told them about a year ago to save the date for her upcoming wedding in Asia. The guest recently booked their airline tickets, but then was dismayed to receive a message "today" from their friend effectively rescinding their wedding invitation.

"Hey guys im so sorry to tell you this but i dont have any accommodation left for yall for the wedding i sincerely apologise i hope yall havent booked tickets as yet," read the bride-to-be's message, which was sent on a group chat that included some of their other university friends.

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The poster explained that they "spent over a grand on tickets," so decided to privately message the bride-to-be about their dilemma.

The message said: “Hey, I literally just booked my tickets and everything like 3 days ago cuz our agent knew and found something (I don’t think the rest did idk) I’m gonna try to cancel but I don’t think I can. I understand how the space was limited family and all that so it’s fine no worries.”

The bride-to-be responded and said "the hotel staff are not budging on accommodations" but that she could possibly "figure something out" if her friend was unsuccessful in canceling the airline tickets. However, the bride-to-be strangely asked the Reddit poster not to tell the rest of their friend group that she was trying to help.

The poster explained that the whole situation had left them feeling "icky." For starters, they said they were "feeling so embarrassed because I already told my friends and family I was invited to a destination wedding and to tell people I was uninvited is so embarrassing."

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Additionally, they were concerned that their other friends "would feel horrible that I got to go [to the wedding] and they didn’t."

The poster wrote that they wished the bride-to-be had at least still extended wedding invites to her friends despite not being able to make room for them in the chosen accommodations. "I’d understand and book my own accommodation," the poster wrote, asking fellow Redditors to share their advice and opinions on the sticky situation.

Many commenters questioned the bride-to-be's true motives, suggesting that she might be using the lack of accommodations as an excuse to trim down her guest list.

"Her reasoning doesn’t make sense," one person wrote, while another chimed in, "Makes me think she invited way more people than she could have accommodated and didn’t think that many people would actually show up for her destination wedding."

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Others wondered why the bride-to-be's guests were not being given the option to stay off-site somewhere nearby. "For destination weddings, a common scenario is some guests are on-site (like the immediate family and bridal party) while others stay off-site and still attend the event on location. It doesn't make sense right now why it is all or nothing and is putting you in a very awkward bind," someone commented.

Another person asked, "Are there zero hotels or airbnbs in the area?" The question prompted the poster to reply, "There’s plenty. So that’s why I’m confused."

One commenter assured the poster that they should not feel embarrassed by the wedding situation. "You should not feel embarrassed in the least but your friend should feel horrified. What they've done is incredibly rude," they wrote. "It's okay to let you all know that the hotel block is unexpectedly full and that she'd understand if you couldn't attend due to the circumstances, but to flat out tell all of you not to come is beyond rude."

Quite a few people urged the poster to make the best of the situation and forget about the wedding and instead enjoy a "mini vacation" in Asia. "Keep your tickets, go have a great vacation and don’t give her a second thought," one Redditor suggested.

"I would still go to Asia and make it a vacation and an experience," added another person.

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