Disabled man calls out people who assume his girlfriend is his carer
A disabled man has called out strangers who automatically assume his girlfriend is his carer.
Carl Thompson, 31, who lives with cerebral palsy and uses a power wheelchair, and his girlfriend Kirsty Crosby, 24, from Melbourne, say they are often met with confusion when people realise they are in a relationship.
Crosby, a speech language pathologist, says she will consciously showcase public displays of affection when possible to try to stop the public assuming she's Thompson's carer.
“People often think I'm Carl’s support worker," she explains. "Often at times, I have noticed people in different environments just watching us for a while, and I assume they're probably trying to work out what's going on between us two, as in what our relationship is.
“So, I generally like to hold his hand to make it clear, or give him a kiss to make it even clearer. It would be particularly weird if they thought I was his support worker when I start doing that, or I start eating his food!”
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Thompson says that on one occasion a flight attendant even assumed Crosby was his mum.
“It happens a lot, often more implicit than explicit mentions, but most people don’t think that we are actually together as a couple and can often be shocked to find out," he says.
“Not always shocked in a bad way, but it just goes to show how low community expectations are of people with disability.
“I think sadly people still often think of people with disabilities as people who just go to a centre and do arts and crafts all day and couldn’t imagine them doing other regular things like having relationships.”
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The couple, who first met working at a disability support organisation five years ago say they were able to eventually laugh at the incident on the plane, but believe more needs to be done to show that people with disabilities live normal lives, which includes having inter-abled romantic relationships and friendships.
When asked what could help, Crosby said: “I think just remind people not to make assumptions, sometimes the person you are seeing might be a personal support worker, but also often it might be their friend or partner.”
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To help raise awareness about the subject Thompson has been documenting his own experiences living with cerebral palsy, along with his and Crosby’s time as a couple on YouTube and Instagram.
“It’s one of the reasons I started the YouTube channel, to get more realistic representations of people with disability out there,” he adds.
Additional reporting Caters.