Chrissy Teigen and John Legend thanked for helping to break the silence surrounding baby loss
Chrissy Teigen and John Legend have opened up about the “deep pain” they are feeling following the death of their unborn baby, prompting other grieving parents to share words of support.
People have also thanked the couple for speaking openly and honestly about a pain that many people keep to themselves, due to taboos surrounding speaking about miscarriage and stillbirth.
“I’m so sorry for your family,” one person commented on Teigen’s Instagram post. “You are helping so many people by sharing your story. You are helping so many mothers who have gone through this feel seen, feel less alone. Thank you for your bravery and honesty.”
Teigen had been taken to hospital for excessive bleeding during her pregnancy on Sunday and had been updating fans on her condition via social media.
“We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before,” Teigen wrote in the early hours of Thursday.
“We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.”
The heartbreaking statement was accompanied by black and white photos, one of which showed Teigen crying while in a hospital bed.
Another image portrayed the couple cradling their late baby, a boy they named Jack.
“We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital,” Teigen explains.
“But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.
“To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.”
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Teigen went on to thank her followers for their “positive energy, thoughts and prayers” and said the family will now take some time to grieve for their little boy.
“We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience,” she concluded her heartbreaking post.
“But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.”
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In a further post on Twitter, Teigen wrote: “Driving home from the hospital with no baby. How can this be real.”
Teigen’s followers offered their condolences to the couple in comments on her posts.
Many also thanked Teigen and Legend for opening up about their pain, saying that their honesty could help break down the culture of silence surrounding miscarriage and baby loss.
“I am so astonished and in complete awe of your bravery,” one person wrote. “You just made so many women feel seen by sharing this intimate grief.
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“I hope the outpouring of love you receive helps you and your family heal. Thank you for being so strong and so open. Sending you and your family so much love and light in this extraordinarily difficult time. May you always feel Jack’s love surrounding you.”
“I’m so sorry for your loss,” another person commented. “Thank you for sharing it with the world. As painful as that must be, you might be helping another momma be open about her own loss and that’s huge. Much love to you all.”
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Other parents shared their own stories of loss and what helped get them through the pain.
“I'm so sorry, love,” one follower commented. “From one angel mom to another, itll [sic] be ok, one day you'll be able to think of them without crying, and you'll be able to have them in your heart without the pain. Itll [sic] be ok. They love you.”
“When I lost my little one, I was overcome with grief that never seemed to leave,” another user shared. “I felt so frustrated that I couldn’t make it stop... but then I heard this saying: ‘Grief is just love that has no where to go...’
“Now, I have days where that love rests in my heart peacefully, and days where it still flows down my cheeks in my tears; whether they’re in our lives for a second, a year, or a lifetime, our babes change our hearts and lives forever... I’m so sorry for your loss, and I wish you and your family so much love, peace, and healing.”
Help and support
For more information and support visit stillbirth and neonatal death charity, Sands UK.
Tommy’s funds research into miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth, and provides pregnancy health information to parents.
The Miscarriage Association provides support and information to anyone affected by miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or molar pregnancy.