Bride Refuses to Let Mom's Boyfriend Walk Her Down the Aisle on Wedding Day: 'I've Never Seen Him as a Father Figure'
"He came into my life when I was already an adult, and we’re friendly, but not particularly close," the bride explained on Reddit
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Bride walking down the aisle (stock image)A bride is refusing to allow her mother's boyfriend to walk her down the aisle.
In a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" forum, the bride-to-be, 24, explained how her mother, 48, has been "pushing" for her boyfriend, 50, to be the person to walk her down the aisle in place of her late father. But she wants to walk alone.
"My dad passed away when I was 10, and my mom started dating her boyfriend about six years ago," the bride wrote in her post. "While he’s always been nice to me, I’ve never seen him as a father figure, he came into my life when I was already an adult, and we’re friendly but not particularly close."
The bride believes that the best way to honor her independence and father's memory would be by walking herself down the aisle. Her mother disagrees, countering that her boyfriend deserves recognition for the large role he has played in her life.
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Mother and daughter arguing (stock image)"She got really upset, saying her boyfriend has 'earned' the spot by being there for me all these years," the bride wrote of her mother. "She even accused me of disrespecting her relationship and trying to 'erase' my dad, which couldn’t be further from the truth."
She continued: "Now her boyfriend is avoiding me, and my mom keeps calling me selfish and saying I’m ruining the wedding before it even starts … But this is my wedding, and I feel like I should have the final say."
Some family members have advised the bride to let her mother's boyfriend walk her down the aisle just to "keep the peace." But she asked Reddit users to weigh in.
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Most people in the comments section took the bride's side.
"This is your wedding and, hopefully, your only one! It should be perfect according to your and your partner's needs and desires. Not an area for point of contentions," the top comment partially reads. "Your mother is being manipulative and insulting."
"This isn’t about disrespecting anyone, it’s about honoring my dad and making my wedding feel right for me," the bride added in the comments section. "It hurts that she’s twisting this into something manipulative instead of understanding my reasons. Thank you for validating my perspective."
