People Revealed Why Sex Fizzled Out With Their Partners, And It's Very Eye-Opening
Recently Reddit user itsjadejuniper asked the community, "What made you lose attraction to your ex-partner?"
Welp, folks didn't hold anything back, and revealed the significant things their partners did that turned them off sexually. For them, there was no turning back.
So, here are some bigggggg relationship turn-offs that made folks lose sexual interest in their partners:
1."When they started treating everyone else better than me. I felt like I was just an afterthought, and that completely killed the attraction."
"It kind of hits hard when you realize the person you cared for prioritized others over you. It’s like, why am I even here if I’m not valued? It definitely changes how you feel about them over time."
2."When they began arguing for the sake of it. No rhyme or reason or well-thought-out ideas. Just blindly disagreed with everything to anger me, and then she’d say, 'Whatever' when I punched holes in her dumb arguments."
3."My ex emotionally dumped all her issues on me. After a long time of being her personal therapist, I began to feel a duty to be there for her for all her emotional turmoil. To protect her and help her better herself with advice and support. But that dynamic skewed the relationship, and my drive for sex slowly diminished until it was gone completely. It was a harsh lesson to learn that you can be there for your partner, but even if you want to, you can’t be everything for them."
4."I stopped wanting to have sex with him because I felt so objectified. His affection towards me was ONLY tied to sex. Once I stopped, he started being sexual and 'pushy' with every single other woman, irrespective of looks, personality, or morals. I walked out of that relationship thinking I was asexual."
5."She was always so down on herself, and it got kind of insulting because no matter what I said, it was brushed off. Then she got upset because I stopped complimenting her. She basically convinced me I wasn't attracted to her, and I just got so tired of it. I found myself saying, 'Okay, you have convinced me.' We broke up, and it wasn't bad, but it was for the best. I still want the best for her."
6."After my cat died, my ex was suddenly grieving for his dogs that died over three years ago. I needed to accept he couldn't be supportive of me in my grief, and I needed to give him sympathy instead. I realized he didn't actually love or care for me, just the attention he got from me. Pictures of him make my skin crawl now."
7."'Future faking.' He promised forever, only for me to find out that he was never serious about it and was still sleeping with other women."
8."When my ex stopped putting effort into the relationship and became complacent. It felt like they were taking me for granted, and that really made me lose attraction over time."
9."When I paid all the bills for two years. He seemed to think he was above 'menial jobs' because he was 'making his art' (he completed nothing, despite all of my financial support). Clearly, he was not above being kept by his girlfriend despite my tears and pleading as I was drowning and working to burnout to keep both of us afloat. I also found out he had a six-month affair with a vulnerable 18-year-old during that time, but I only found out after I dumped him (we were in our early thirties). He was an entitled asshole."
10."She always talked about herself and never asked me anything or what was going on in my life. It was really hard even to have a conversation about things or get feedback. It was like I was single and felt like I never got any feedback. I'm in a much better place now."
11."I started losing attraction when they became really negative all the time (like, constantly complaining and being critical of everything). It just drained the fun out of being together and made me realize we weren't on the same page anymore."
12."Honestly, I saw a lot of my stepmother (who I loathe) in her. I always asked myself how did I end up in the same situation my father was in — I'm happy I got out of that one."
13."She didn't have a job, and I'd come home from work every day to dirty dishes and clothes all over the floor of her room. She would be lying there disconnected from me on her phone, leaving me to clean everything and take care of her kid. She never wanted to go anywhere or do anything with me — just always wanted me to pay for her shit and do everything for her."
14."He let his family disrespect me and be so mean to me for years to the point where I'd get butterflies before any family gathering."
15."When I realized they were a chronic people pleaser. 90% of what they told me was a lie to just get me to like them. The worst part is it warped my understanding of what a relationship is, and it took a while to get over that feeling that someone isn't right for me because we have different interests. To this day, I have no idea who I dated for four years of my life. It was all make-believe."
16."When I found out my ex-husband cheated on me with his best friend's girlfriend. He immediately went from being someone I loved to the point of my own destruction to someone who made my skin crawl and I couldn't look at."
17."She was fake. She could go from yelling loudly in the car to pulling up somewhere and throwing a smile on her face. She could have a completely bubbly attitude in a matter of seconds."
18."She had a very permissive and unaccountable way of looking at life, and I believe that structure should be a fundamental part of building a strong enough relationship if you want to start a family. Inevitably, this would become a problem if we progressed further (I still care for her as a person very much)."
19.And finally, "He lacked emotional intelligence. He was a doctor on a mission to prove himself to be well-educated and intelligent, but oh dear me! That man did not know how to comprehend matters of the heart and mind. It was draining."
Note: Some submissions were edited for length and/or clarity.
