Woman Says Her Wife Won't Cook Without 'Throwing a Tantrum.' Now They're 'Struggling' in Their Marriage

In a post shared to Reddit, a woman writes that her wife was raised in a family that didn't do chores — and she doesn't want to do them now

A woman says her wife's inability to cook is starting to affect their marriage, with the wife refusing to participate in any household chores on the pretense that she was raised in a family without them.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 24-year-old woman writes that she and her 26-year-old wife "are struggling in our marriage as she believes she does not need to help cook or prepare food or even help clean up after, besides dishes."

The wife was raised in a family that didn't do chores and "had a maid come clean the house."

"She has never learned to cook and cannot boil water despite me walking her through it, she just loses patience," the Reddit poster adds.

And despite the poster's many attempts, the wife seems unwilling to learn or contribute to household chores like cooking.

"I love my wife and have taken time out of our evenings to show her how to cook and measure spices, for example," the poster writes. "She lasts about 2 minutes before either walking away or throwing a tantrum that she doesn’t want to learn and I should be the only [one] in this house who has to know how to cook."

Recently, the poster writes that she came home from work "exhausted" and, after her wife complained that the two hadn't been spending time together, "offered to have her cook with me."

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"I thought it would be cute to make a recipe together that we never ate before," the poster writes. But the wife did not agree.

The post continues: "She threw a fit and said she just wanted to [watch] TV but eventually agreed to sit in the kitchen with me. About 10 minutes in, I asked her to wash a grill rack since she usually does the dishes when I cook. Surprise, she threw a tantrum."

"Eventually she did it because she was hungry and I was busy cooking 3 different parts of the dinner," the woman writes. "A few minutes later I had to go outside to and grill some chicken and I asked if she could start putting some spices away so I would have less clean up. I think you know what happened next…"

The woman adds that the wife "eventually stopped yelling and complaining and put some stuff away," but the damage was done.

Now, the woman is questioning how the couple can move on, with friends saying the wife needs to start preparing her own meals if she won't help out around the house in any way.

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"I am also the one who does the 'handyman' duties as well as take care of all the bills and yardwork," the woman writes. "I do have to give credit where credit is due and mention that she does the dishes and puts the laundry away."

Still, the woman wants to know: is she in the wrong for wanting help with food preparation?

Reddit commenters overwhelmingly agreed with the poster, with one writing, "You can't make your wife grow up and act like an adult but you can stop coddling her because she throws tantrums. Buy her a beginners [book], like Betty Crocker, and let her figure it out."

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