Woman Says Her Partner Is Mad She Didn't Prioritize Him When He Showed Up Unannounced While She Was Working from Home
"[Am I being unreasonable] to think that I shouldn’t have just dropped everything?” the woman — who shared her experience in an online community forum — asked
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Man and woman in an argument (stock image)A woman says she’s currently in an argument with her boyfriend because she didn’t make him a “priority” when he showed up at her house unannounced — and she’s wondering if she is being unreasonable.
The woman shared her story in the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K. site Mumsnet, explaining that she is mainly work-from-home and that her DP (dear partner) recently showed up at her house while she was on a video call.
She went on to say that her partner was unwell the day prior and ”is really worried” about his health.
“I made my excuses from my call for a few [minutes] whilst I said hello to [him] and made him a cup of tea, checked how he was feeling and apologized that I couldn’t take more time out of my meeting (sometimes when he pops over unannounced I might be able to grab 15 mins but not always). I rejoined my call,” she wrote.
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She says that her partner then interrupted her meeting about 20 minutes later and “made stupid noises and laughed when I muted my call and asked him to keep it down.”
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Woman on a video call (stock image)The original poster (OP) went on to say that her partnerr ultimately left the room, but came back about another 20 minutes later and announced he was leaving — “and it was clear he was pretty cross that I hadn’t made more effort to fuss [around] him,” she wrote.
“I understand that he is scared about his health and wanted more support than I gave him. But AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to think that I shouldn’t have just dropped everything?” she asked. She then added that she knows when confronted he’ll “say something along the lines of ‘as your partner I should take priority over work.’ “
Community members were quick to reassure the woman that she was not being unreasonable — and if anything, she has the right to be mad in this scenario.
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“I would be absolutely livid!” wrote one person, adding, “Why on earth couldn’t he have called/texted and checked if it was a good time? Why are you worrying about him being cross with you? He’s a complete idiot!”
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Woman and man in a disagreement (stock image)“Unless there is some kind of emergency with his health, like he needs to go to [the] hospital, it's ridiculous of him to think he takes priority over work during working hours,” wrote another.
Others said they thought the man’s behavior could be a sign of some real relationship red flags.
“That is the most completely childish and disrespectful thing I've read in a while. Absolutely not on interrupting your work, invading your personal space and all because he can't be an adult! Please read him the riot act and state exactly why this is not ok and must not be repeated - in my book it would be a dumpable offence just for the disrespect [...],” wrote another.
“In what other ways is he controlling? Because that’s what’s happening here. He’s trying to control you. Bin him off,” added someone else.
“What on earth do you see in this man child [...]?” said one commenter.
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