Woman Refuses to Let In-Laws Meet Her Newborn Immediately. Now They're Calling Her 'Rigid'
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she and her husband "apparently have differing views about honoring our parents"
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Woman with her new baby in stock photoA woman says her in-laws are making her out to be a horrible person because she's too "rigid" about her boundaries — like not allowing them to visit her newborn within hours of the baby's arrival.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she and her husband "apparently have differing views about honoring our parents."
"His family is not respecting of boundaries I’ve put up, and he (husband) also put up, and so I’ve definitely been a bit more rigid about things," she continues.
She adds that this has been a problem in their marriage in the past — like with their wedding, when she wanted something more intimate, but her husband ultimately decided on something larger.
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"My husband already ruined what I wanted for our wedding by inviting his whole extended family as his parents wanted him to, letting his mother take unwanted 'formal' wedding pictures which made me uncomfortable (we’d hired a photographer), and just other various things. They push and push and push and it’s suffocating," she adds.
But now the situation has spiraled even further, she writes, as the couple will soon have a child.
"N I’ve become the a------ again because I don’t want to 'honor' his parents by letting them see me and our firstborn child within the first 24 hours of me giving birth. (I don’t want my parents there, either, lol, I just want it to be the two of us.)," she writes. "I already know myself and my body and my emotions, and with how overbearing his parents are— I know it’s going to be hell for me."
But the woman's husband doesn't feel the same.
"He claims that the birth isn’t 'just about us, it’s about our parents, too' which I laughed in his face about," she writes, adding: "My parents don’t believe their first grandchild is about them, and so I’m not sure where my husband and his parents get this notion."
Now, the woman wants to know if she's in the wrong for standing her ground and refusing to allow her in-laws to see their newborn child immediately.
"I feel like I’m going literally insane," she adds.
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Commenters have weighed in, with many saying they have similar relationships with their in-laws.
"Dear lord do we have the same in laws? Because I swear mine act like this," wrote one, adding: "You can still honor your parents without bending to their every whim ... "
Still others say the in-laws aren't the problem.
"Your in-laws wouldn’t be a problem if your husband didn’t let them. And he is letting them. Has been since before the wedding," wrote another commenter. "You got a husband problem."
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