Woman in Labor Says She Snapped at Her Sister-in-Law for Unsolicited Advice: 'She Has Since Unfriended Me on Facebook'
“Perhaps I shouldn't have been texting in the group chat while in labor,” the mom of three wondered on Reddit
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A pregnant woman texting on her phone (stock image)A woman is wondering if she’s in the wrong for responding to her sister-in-law’s unsolicited advice with a “snappy text” in their family group chat.
The 29-year-old mom of three turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A------” forum to describe the text exchange, which happened on the day she gave birth to her third baby last November and resulted in the relative unfriending her on Facebook.
“The women in my husband’s family — his 2 sisters, our [sister-in-law] and his mom — and I have a group chat where we send pictures of our kids, tell funny stories about our day, and, in this case, send updates about possible labor,” the woman began her Feb. 5 Reddit post.
“On this particular day in November, at 37 weeks plus 5 days gestation, I reached out to inform that this just might be the day my newest baby decides to make his grand entrance,” she continued. “I had been having strong contractions since 5:50 that morning. Everyone except my SIL responded with excitement and praying hands emojis.”
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At noon, she told the group chat that nurses said she “wasn’t dilated enough to be admitted, despite strong and frequent contractions.”
“I assured everyone [the labor] was most likely going to happen that day, judging from past experiences, but I would go home to labor in comfort,” she explained, before adding, “This is where I might be the a------.”
At this point, the sister-in-law chimed in.
“My SIL — who also gave birth to her 3rd baby a couple months prior (via c-section … I am not judging nor think of her as less than, just context is key) — decided to text how glad she was that I wasn’t in ‘real labor’ and that it’s better that I wait to have the baby another couple of weeks,” the woman revealed. “She then sent a bunch of screenshots and links to articles about false labor and Braxton Hicks [contractions] ... AS IF I HAD NEVER GIVEN BIRTH BEFORE OR EXPERIENCED PREGNANCY BEFORE.”
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The expectant mother said she replied to her sister-in-law while having a contraction. She recalled texting, “Not to be bity, but this ain’t my first rodeo, and I know how to Google things as well.”
After being sent home, she returned to the hospital hours later and gave birth to her third baby at 10:15 p.m., the mom noted.
“SIL does not reply to me in texts, and has since unfriended me on Facebook (not that I really care about that),” she wrote. “I just want to know if I was an a------ for what I said, and in hindsight, perhaps I shouldn’t have been texting in the group chat while in labor.”
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Redditors replied with more than 1,300 comments within 24 hours of her sharing her story, with many saying she’s “NTA [not the a------].”
“As someone who gave birth: NTA,” one woman replied. “As someone whose body doesn’t like to dilate, I know what it’s like to go and get sent home. You get told to go home and walk around. It’s safe to do as long as your baby hasn’t broken the sac.”
Another Redditor wrote, “All those articles and screenshots weren’t necessary when you’ve literally given birth multiple times before this and you didn’t say anything wrong. You’ve been in labor before and you also have Google at your fingertips.”
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