'My wife lost her wedding ring and replaced it without telling me – I'm fuming'
Even innocent gestures can cause cracks in a relationship.
Getting married comes with a wedding ring that most people will wear all the time, unless they need to set it aside for a particular reason. But one woman has caused problems with her husband after she misplaced her wedding ring and replaced it with another piece of jewellery - as she lied to him about where the new ring came from.
The woman had told him her ring had "slipped off" as a result of her losing weight and, fearing her engagement ring would fall off too, she put another ring on instead. She opted to wear her old wedding band, which she had been keeping to pass it down to her daughter from her first marriage. This decision, however, has not sat well with her current husband.
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On Reddit, he explained: "When I asked if she was wearing a different ring she said, 'no' then hid her hands. Then after a moment, said that [her wedding ring] slipped off her finger because she'd lost weight recently, and to make sure she didn't lose the engagement ring, she put on another ring (she doesn't own many other rings).
"A little while later, I told her I was upset that she hid it from me, lied about it when confronted, and only admitted it when she could see no other way forward. She says she didn't want to bring it up before because she was worried it would cause a problem and that she's been under a lot of stress, but it upsets her, too, that she lost it.
"Now she's p***ed at me for saying she lied, and this is exactly why she didn't tell me earlier because I would've gotten upset. Admittedly, there have been a few things involving her ex-husband that have bothered me about how she's handled it, but I feel like putting the ring back to her own admission. She knew I'd find it upsetting, but did it anyway."
The husband shared he would have gladly replaced her ring if he had known about the loss, and he was even understanding about her wearing her previous wedding band - the issue for him lay in the dishonesty. Responses to his story were mixed, with many sympathising with his position yet acknowledging his wife's difficult situation.
One individual opined: "She lost her ring, it upset her, she was afraid it would upset you, so she didn't mention it. Because she was trying to keep it all secret, she denied wearing another ring, but rather than lie to you, after a moment, she let the secret out. That’s not a very significant lie. I don’t think she had the intent to permanently deceive you."
Another remarked: "This is silly. Move on. Tell her to take the ex's ring off immediately. That doesn't fly. If she wants to keep wearing her engagement ring tell her to go buy a simple wedding band, you'll pay for it. Or tell her to take the engagement ring off until you buy her a replacement wedding band."
