How well you sleep in a relationship isn’t just to do with whether your other half is ridiculously warm or if they’re generous with the duvet. Scientists have found that the psychological nature of your relationship is a huge factor in determining whether or not you get a good night’s kip.
Research published in Society for Personality and Social Psychology found a link between how secure you feel with a partner and whether or not you’re sleeping well.
Dr. Emre Selçuk, of Middle East Technical University in Turkey, and a team of scientists questioned almost 700 married or cohabiting adults aged 35-86.
The team used a survey to measure how responsive people perceived their partners to be, any symptoms of depression and anxiety, and sleep problems. More than 200 of the participants also wore a Mini Mitter Actiwatch1-64
activity monitor on their wrist for a week to offer further insight into their sleeping habits.
Dr. Selçuk wrote: “Our findings show that individuals with responsive partners experience lower anxiety and arousal, which in turn improves their sleep quality.” .
He added: “Having responsive partners who would be available to protect and comfort us should things go wrong is the most effective way for us humans to reduce anxiety, tension, and arousal."
Researchers said that the only way to get restorative sleep (the best high-quality sleep humans can have) is to feel safe and secure.
So basically, if you’re being screwed around, it’s time to dump him and invest in a sleep mask and some ear plugs.