Plane Passenger Switches Seats Twice to Help Out Fellow Travelers — but Commenters Say They’re in the Wrong

• A plane passenger says they were asked to switch seats three times during their flight in a recent post shared to Reddit

• The poster switched twice to help out two pairs of travelers, but declined when asked a third time 

• Commenters argued that the passenger never should have switched at all, even if they were trying to do a good deed

A plane passenger is detailing their experience switching seats multiple times in order to acommodate their fellow travelers — but their good deed isn’t getting any praise.

While recounting the incident on Reddit, the passenger sets the scene by explaining how they specifically chose a window seat for their flight to San Juan, Puerto Rico.

“I treated myself to a first class window seat on the left side of the plane so I could see my grandma’s house coming in,” they note. After boarding the plane and making their way to their seat, they noticed someone was already sitting in the aisle seat next to theirs.

“When I arrived to my seat, there was a very elderly woman in the aisle seat and another woman in the aisle seat across the way. The younger woman said, ‘This is my mother, she has dementia and she can’t even feed herself. Can we switch so I can care for her during the flight?’”

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Though the poster wasn't happy about it, they ended up switching with the daughter so she could sit next to her mother.

They continue, “Then two other women come up and gave me another, ‘We couldn’t book together but we want to sit together. Can you move to this other aisle seat please?’ At that point I was seething but seeing as I’d barely touched my butt to the new aisle seat, I just said ‘whatever’ to them and moved.”

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While they were willing to move twice before, the passenger says they had to put their foot down when they were approached a third time with the same request.

“When a THIRD person came up to me to start the ‘hi um’ I immediately said, ‘I have switched twice already, you can take it up with someone else,’” the user recalls.

“I know I chose to move for these people, but I’m so upset that I paid for that specific window seat and my options were basically, help a woman with dementia but enjoy my view, or move and sit in an aisle seat by the bathrooms,” they add.

The passenger concludes their post with a tip for travelers who ask strangers to switch seats with them.

“Listen, if you borked your booking and you want to switch with people, BE GENEROUS. Send me a free drink or something, slip me a $20, tell the cabin crew so I get my friggin preordered meal, be generous.”

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However, many commenters were in agreement that the passenger never should have moved to accommodate others in the first place.

“Don’t let other people’s problems become your problems. Sit in your assigned seat. If people need accommodations, they can take it up with the [flight attendants],” one person said.

In response, the passenger wrote back, “This is my normal MO but I think the very clear dementia was what made me say yes. It legit felt like my options were to sit beside this woman who looked terrified of me/obviously needed help, or just to shut up and move for them.”

“This is chivalrous, but people lie all the time to manipulate others,” another commenter added, followed by third who wrote, “I would happily move for the grandma but the others are on their own after that.”

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According to travel expert, advisor and writer Nicole Campoy Jackson, the general rule of thumb that all passengers should be following when it comes to seat swapping is to always seek help from a flight attendant.

“I am always in the camp of getting a flight attendant involved for sticky in-flight situations,” Jackson previously told PEOPLE. “Tensions run high when we're traveling plus they would know, for example, if there was another aisle seat or another solution to this problem. They have more context than we, the passengers, do.”

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