Mums are often made to feel under scrutiny. Whether it’s about breastfeeding in public, returning to work or what your children are eating, there’s always someone waiting in the wings to criticise mothers’ decisions.
Blogger Constance Hall finally decided to speak out about the criticism she received after one particularly blatant incident of double standards.
Writing on Instagram, the mum explained how she had recently had to change her baby daughter’s nappy in the park because there weren’t adequate changing facilities.
Even though she had been discreet, one woman still approached her to tell she should have used the changing table instead.
But a week later, her husband was the one to change their daughter in the park and was praised by a group of women for being such a “good dad”.
“Bill felt like a legend,” Constance wrote. “I didn’t think much of it because I am used to it. I am used to being scrutinised for jobs that my husband is praised for. I am used to picking the kids up from school to judgemental looks about being late, while Bill is used to a red f*cking carpet and a 12 piece band praising him for his heroic appearance at school pick up.
“That’s the way we as a society are, we place so much pressure on women to be perfect and selfless while putting low parenting expectations on men. I am not saying quit the praise. I love seeing Bill get praised for the things he does for our kids. He is a good dad, why not celebrate him. But let’s praise each other too, let’s see a women talking on the phone while pushing her pram and think ‘wow, she chose not to stay at home bidding on eBay smashing straight vodka. She chose to come to the park and be a magnificent mum’
“Celebrations, high fives or just a complaint for all Queens today. Because Queening deserves a standing ovation. Kindness puts a red carpet under every shitty arse and a 12 piece band at every late school drop off. You just can’t see it.”
Too right, Constance. *High five* to all the queens out there.