Mom Wants to Exclude In-Laws from Triplets' Birthday Party After They Appear to Favor Her Nephew

A mom to triplets is seeking support from the Reddit community after deciding not to invite her in-laws to her children’s upcoming birthday party.

Just about two years ago, the 28-year-old mother and her husband welcomed triplet boys who were born extremely prematurely, with doctors warning they might not survive. Despite the odds, all three boys are now home and thriving after a lengthy stay in the neonatal intensive care unit.

The mother’s parents have been incredibly supportive throughout the journey in addition to facing their own challenges. “My father has vision issues and my mother is wheelchair bound but they are texting me every single day asking about me, my husband, and the boys,” she explains in the Reddit post.

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They have offered “to schedule date nights for my husband and I to reconnect, showing up to appointments with me when my husband has to work so I don’t have to bring in all 3 kids solo.”

In stark contrast, the in-laws have become noticeably less involved. The mother explains, “After about 2 months of all 3 boys being home, my in-laws completely stopped helping whatsoever. They don’t call or text to check in on the boys or my husband and I, it’s like we don’t exist unless they need a new photo to post on Facebook to seem like super grandparents.”

The situation further escalated when the couple’s sister-in-law gave birth to a son, who was carried to full term, around the same time. The in-laws appear to be more involved with this grandson, the woman writes.

“Now, my nephew was born full term and is your normal 1-year-old, and my in-laws are very much involved with him,” she explains. “They have pictures of him all over their house, he has his own private room at their home, they even have multiple photo albums of just him in each room of their house.”

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When confronted about the apparent favoritism, the in-laws claimed it’s simply easier to deal with one child at a time as the mother-in-law is retired and the father-in-law works a lot. However, the father-in-law reportedly has taken off work to be with the woman’s nephew, she explains.

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They’ve offered to help with the triplets individually, but this arrangement has only happened once in the past five months. While the poster understands the responsibility is all her own, she doesn’t believe it should be an issue to be involved in their grandchildren’s lives, especially as they live five minutes away.

As the triplets’ second birthday approaches, the parents are grappling with the decision to not invite the in-laws.

“I told my husband that I don’t think they deserve to be invited to their birthday party this year," the woman shares. "My husband is on board but we know that if we go through with this, it will be a blow up so big there will be no turning back.”

Commenters are mostly supportive of the mom, though some caution she should think harder about the long-term ramifications of her decision.

"Slow down a little," writes one. "Multiples make people nervous. They don’t know how to look after more than one kiddo at a time, and the idea of 2 crying babies at the same time freaks them out. I’m a twin parent, and can only imagine how stressful looking after 3 might be."

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