Mom Says She Refused to Take 5-Year-Old Daughter to Her Own 'Surprise' Birthday Party. Here’s Why

A mom says she refused to take her 5-year-old daughter to a surprise birthday party — and it has to do with the color pink.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A------?” forum, the 35-year-old woman explained that although her daughter is young, she really doesn't like the color, something everybody in the family knows —or at least, they should.

“My daughter hates pink. She has disliked the color and almost everything to do with it since she was about three or so," the woman wrote.

However, she added that this is something her dad's partner — whom she opted to call "Prue" — "refuses to accept."

"Over the years, she’s made several attempts to push the color onto her (pretty much every gift she’s ever given her was some shade of pink), no matter how many times I tell her to stop," the woman continued. "It clearly upsets Cleo, but Prue keeps doing it."

Related: Woman Says She Was Invited to Party at Her Own Home Thanks to Sibling. When She Put Her Foot Down, Things Got Messy

About a week ago, the woman said her father invited them over for dinner and said that "he and Prue had a surprise for the kids."

Before she even left home, the woman said she got a message from her younger sister, giving her a heads up that the surprise was a "small birthday party Prue had planned for Cleo," even though Cleo's birthday was in November.

Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 

But that wasn't the issue. The problem was that "literally every piece of decor was pink."

"The table, the tableware, the balloons, everything. She had gotten pink banners and glued pink foil fringe curtains on the doors," the woman wrote. "Even the cake was pink."

Related: Woman Says She Doesn’t Want to Invite Her Grieving Aunt to Her Daughter’s 3rd Birthday Party

After talking things over with her husband, the woman said they "agreed not to take the kids there."

She went on to say she texted her dad, told them they weren't coming, but did invite him and Prue to go to McDonalds with them instead — she even said they'd tell the kids the trip was their surprise.

"We did exactly that. My father did show up (without Prue), but he was cold with us and left 20 minutes after arriving," the woman wrote.

The woman said that now her father and Prue "are pissed."

"My father is angry that my husband and I dismissed his partner’s 'heartfelt gesture' towards our daughter," the woman wrote. "Prue also told me that I’m the reason Cleo is “restrictive” (I also don’t like pink), and I’m raising her to be an ungrateful, spoiled brat who is unwilling to compromise."

Related: Man Says He Knows It’s ‘Nice’ His Girlfriend Went All Out for His Birthday, But He Hated the Party

Although upset, the woman admitted that she understood “how I could be in the wrong here," so she decided to ask her fellow Redditors what they thought — and by and large, they took her side.

“Why the hell would anyone keep 'pushing' the [color] pink after being told time and time again that the child hates [it].  Totally don't blame you for not taking the kids - and well done to sister for giving you the heads up,” one commenter wrote.

The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now!

“Your father is the weakest link here," added another. "He should be reeling in Prue's pink obsession, not encouraging it. Tell your father and prue that there are things more important than the color pink in this world and that if they cannot stop giving pink to your daughter, then they should stop giving, period."

Read the original article on People