Married Men, Tell Us What You Wish You Knew Before You Got Married

If you're married, you can probably look back at the lessons you've learned and the surprises you faced that you wish you knew even before you tied the knot.

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So, married men: What do you wish you knew before you got married?

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Maybe there was quite an adjustment for you in taking on new responsibilities and learning healthy communication in your relationship — and you wish you knew just how much goes into building a solid marriage.

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Perhaps you were surprised by how much you'd question your relationship — like whether you made the right decision in marrying your partner, even though you love them.

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Maybe you didn't expect conflicts over everyday things like spending money or raising your kids, and you wish you and your spouse had discussed certain expectations before marriage.

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Or perhaps you were very nervous before getting married due to seeing marriages around you fall apart — but since you've been married, your relationship with your partner is better than ever, and you wish you hadn't been so fearful for so long.

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In the comments below, married men, tell us what surprising things you wish you knew before getting married. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, feel free to use this Google form. Your response could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post.