Man Accuses His Family of Trying to ‘Guilt’ Him into Using All of His PTO for Expensive Tropical Vacation
He claimed on Reddit that his mom, who “beat” cancer, is calling the getaway her “cancer trip”
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A man at home with his suitcase (stock image)A man claims his family is guilt-tripping him into taking a costly trip — and now he’s “torn” on whether to say no or to splurge on the vacation.
The 27-year-old man turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A------” forum to ask for advice from fellow Redditors after explaining how the tropical getaway would eat into his savings and his paid time off (PTO) at work.
The man, who lives at home and is trying to save money to get his own place, noted that he has enough money to pay for the trip, especially since he puts “nearly 60% of my paychecks” into savings.
Although he’s already declined going on the trip, he’s now having second thoughts on if he wants to invest in his future or in instant gratification. “Don't get me wrong, I love my family VERY dearly, but I am just ready to start my life and be on my own, and live the bachelor life for a few years,” he wrote.
He then added that taking time off would “devastate” his PTO. “I would have 1-2 hours of vacation left, and since I just started this job last year I am trying to build a buffer. If anything happens, I'd be f-----.”
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The man also revealed that his mom “beat” colon cancer, but the family had started planning this trip before that “in case it was the end.”
“I cannot see spending this much time and money on this trip,” he shared. “We are all young — including my mother — and we will go again.”
Now, he’s claiming his family is telling him that they “need a man to help keep them safe” and that “we don’t ever see you because you work.” He added that his mom is still calling the getaway her “cancer trip.”
The man feels as though his mom and his sister “are trying to guilt me.”
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A man relaxing at home (stock image)He then asked Redditors, “AITA [am I the a------] for backing out of a family vacation because it costs too much and would use all of my PTO?”
Within 12 hours of posting on Monday, Jan. 27, the Reddit post attracted more than 200 comments, with many people reassuring him he’s NTA [not the a------].
“NTA. It's okay to prioritize your financial goals and PTO,” a Redditor responded. “Be honest with your family about your concerns and suggest alternative ways to spend time together. ... You're being responsible.”
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Another reader offered a potential solution, but the original poster said that wouldn’t work based on his family’s history of not being frugal.
“Just tell them you would love to come but are unable to afford it then let them decide if they want you there enough to shell out to cover you,” one person commented. The original poster replied, “She said she will cover half if need be, but they don't have money either. So then we would BOTH be hurting. They're the first to say they're broke and complain about money and whatnot, but they do things like this.”
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