Lesbian and bisexual women are sharing what they look for on a match's dating app profile
Dating apps can be overwhelming spaces, and that's true regardless of the gender and sexuality of the people you're matching with. But for queer folk on dating apps, the experience is kind of different than it is for cishet people (especially if you're bisexual and have straight men trying to get threesomes out of you 24/7). In a new Reddit thread, lesbian and bisexual women are sharing what attracts them to someone's dating app profile, what puts them off, and what makes them more likely to match with someone. So if you're a queer person using apps to match with LGBTQ+ women and non-binary people, take note.
1. "Good pictures, a filled bio with no 'just ask' non-answers, showing personality and humour, upbeat tone rather than a laundry list of 'don't message me IFs' (though I make an exception here because too often they DO have to say 'no men ever' or 'no unicorn hunters'." [via]
2. "I like profiles where you can see a sense of humour and can tell they don't take themselves too seriously. I want to connect with women who look like they're fun to hang out with since it's really just a first step in getting to know each other. Also it's confusing when all the pictures are with groups of people. I don't want to play detective trying to figure out which one you are." [via]
3. "Clear pictures, clear details about themselves. Nothing dismissive (unless it's of unicorn hunters) or discriminatory." [via]
4. "I'm bi. This goes for women and men's profiles. If they have casual pics of them being themselves; if their profile bio is filled out and humorous and I look for if there's any common traits as me." [via]
5. "A bio with positive things, not a list of turnoffs." [via]
6. "I look for three main things: cuteness, confidence, and a sense of humour. Those things can be conveyed in so many different ways. I want to talk to someone who has a clear perspective, even if it’s different from mine and especially if it’s a little offbeat. If someone is trying to be too likeable it’s not going to interest me. Have an opinion or passion that we can discuss." [via]
7. "It's so much easier to click with people when there are conversation starters in their bio." [via]
8. "Definitely a bio that shows something about herself — e.g., her passion, goals and dreams, where she grew up in, or even personality test results like Myers-Briggs. Clear relationship goals or reason for being on the app! So neither of us wastes time. I just love people who are proactive. I don’t mind initiating (and most of the time, I’m the one that makes moves), but I’d love to see efforts from the other person, and see that she also wants to get to know me." [via]
9. "Preferably a good picture of her face where I can actually see her face, no filters." [via]
10. "Nothing in the bio like 'just ask' or 'you can swipe left if you're X'. Which is a similar standard I have for men. But if she's said something funny in the bio, extra points. Will likely message her first." [via]
11. "Anything that's not a totally blank bio or a string of emojis." [via]
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