Jessie J shares the bittersweet reality of toddler motherhood: ‘People stop checking in on you as much’
You don’t notice the moment when it happens. One day, people stop checking in as much. They stop asking how you’re feeling, how the baby is doing. They stop offering advice—wanted or not. And it’s not because they don’t care. It’s because they trust you got this.
Jessie J, the British singer-songwriter known for hits like ‘Price Tag’ and ‘Domino,’ captured this shift beautifully in a recent Instagram post as she reflected on life with her 18-month-old son, Sky. The postpartum fog has lifted, and the routines are (somewhat) settled, but there’s a new quiet. Not lonely, necessarily, but quiet.
“It’s a bittersweet moment, because it means you made it through postpartum and into the toddler phase and people trust you got it… but on the other hand, you can find yourself alone in many moments in this still very new normal thinking woof… Am I doing it right?”
And honestly? Woof might be the most universal word for motherhood.
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The toddler stage comes with its own set of questions. Are they eating enough? Sleeping enough? Is Baby Shark still a normal part of my day? Am I even doing this right? But Jessie reminds us of a truth so simple yet so grounding:
“You are doing it right. You are doing it wrong. You are doing it your way.”
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It’s that mix of confidence and doubt—feeling stronger than you ever have, yet vulnerable in ways you never expected—that defines motherhood.
And that’s the beauty of it. The shift into toddlerhood may be quiet, but it’s also a reflection of the strength you’ve built. People stop checking in, not because they don’t care, but because they believe in you. And maybe, just maybe, it’s time to believe in yourself, too.
So, as Jessie reminds us, wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself the hug you’d give anyone else who’s trying their best. You are doing it your way. And that’s enough.
