Should you wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride?

Is it ever ok to wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride? [Photo: Getty]

Dressing for a wedding can be a minefield. Too short, too revealing, too white?

It’s this last potential fashion faux-pas that is particularly concerning a soon-to-be wedding guest.

Turning to parenting site Netmums, the woman asked for some sartorial advice about whether the dress she is planning to wear at her friends wedding is too white and could potentially offend the bride?

“The dress I wanted to wear wasn’t delivered in time so I panic bought this last night,” she started her post.

“I completely didn’t think about it being white. Argh. I’m going to have to get another one aren’t I?”

The woman shared an image of the outfit which was a mid-length, one-shoulder white dress with black polka dots and explained she was planning on wearing it with a beige jacket and beige wedges.

But opinion was divided about whether white was ever appropriate to wear to a wedding.

The poster shared an image of the dress she was planning to wear [Photo: Next/Boohoo]

Many thought the colour should be avoided at all costs.

“I wouldn't risk anything that white for a wedding,” one user wrote. “Stay well clear just to avoid upsetting the bride or her thinking it was done on purpose. Millions of other colours out there.”

“I would just never risk it,” another agreed. “If the bride is sensitive or paranoid or upset about something else then she'll be upset. Just choose a different dress. If you have to ask "is this too white?" then it's too white to risk it.”

“Ladies off course it doesn't look bridal, that isn't the point. The rule is only the bride wear white at the wedding or am I missing the point?” another user commented.

However, others thought the dress was absolutely fine, not at all bridal and as long as the woman accessorises it with other colours it will be great to wear.

“This is nothing like a bridal or even a bridesmaids dress so I think it could pass,” one user suggested.

“If you're accessorising it with a TOTALLY different colour clutch, shoes, hat/fascinator etc the white also stands out less (+ It's polka dot print as well.)”

“I'd accessorise with bright colours though, not beige,” another offered. “Red/blue/green cardigan and matching shoes or pashmina etc. Or add a large flower on the shoulder bit?”

“The dress is totally fine,” another added. “I would have absolutely no idea why anyone would be upset by that dress. Accessorise with whatever you want to”.

How white is too white?

Some former brides shared tales of their own guests wearing white.

“At my wedding, my size 6 cousin wore a very similar skin tight dress to yours, except it was all white - no polka dots,” one woman wrote. “I thought it very odd but wasn’t too bothered. Many other guests made comments though.”

“I wouldn't have a problem with it, it's clearly not a wedding dress. Someone wore a similar dress to my wedding and asked me in advance if it was ok, I didn't mind at all. Another guest wore an ivory lace one which I definitely wouldn't do!”

Choosing an outfit for a wedding is a tricky business [Photo: Getty]

The woman isn’t the first one to crowdsource opinions about their potential wedding outfit.

Last month a wedding guest took to parenting site Mumsnet to inquire about a dress she planned to wear to an upcoming wedding and found herself getting trolled about it.

In the post, the woman said she was worried her dramatic floral print ensemble might upset the bride, and come across as an attempt to upstage the newlyweds on their big day.

But rather than advising about whether she would deflect the attention from the bride, she was instead met with criticism for her seemingly poor fashion taste.

It’s understandable that wedding guests might feel a little nervous about their outfit choices for the big day considering tales of demanding brides are rife right now.

Earlier this year a furious bride claimed her guests gifts weren’t expensive enough to follow up her lavish wedding celebrations.

Then there was the bride who wanted to change some of her bridesmaids’ eye colours so they didn’t ‘clash’ with the colour scheme.

Next up was the couple asked wedding guests to take a fortnight off work for their destination wedding and save almost £3,000 to attend the three-day-long nuptials.

Back in December, a bride asked her wedding party to dress in a weight-based dress code with women above 160 pounds and men above 200 pounds requested to wear black or camouflage.

And let’s not forget the bride who divided the Internet by asking her guests to answer maths questions during their wedding celebrations.