'I'm a working mum - my stay-at-home husband doesn't think I do enough housework'
The division of household tasks can often spark a row.
If you're cohabiting with a partner, it's likely you've had conversations about how domestic duties are divided. Perhaps one of you tackles the dishes while the other sorts out the laundry, or maybe you agree to take out the rubbish in return for not having to scrub the bathroom.
The split of labour can vary depending on your work circumstances too. In a home where everyone works similar hours, it's reasonable to expect an even distribution of chores. However, if one party is out at work while the other stays at home, it's common for the stay-at-home individual to shoulder more of the cleaning responsibilities.
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One woman, though, is fuming with her husband after he blamed her for their messy house, claiming she doesn't do enough - despite him being a stay-at-home dad to their toddler.
The woman, who works full-time, said her husband, whom she referred to as Jack, stays at home with their child. But instead of keeping the house tidy, he spends his time playing video games while their toddler naps, then picks up their child when they wake and prepares dinner.
She claimed her husband manages "maybe one chore" daily, although occasionally, she is "pleasantly surprised" by his efforts. However, the mum argues that one task a day isn't sufficient to maintain a clean house, so she's stopped trying to assist him - and now he's pointing the finger at her.
In a candid Reddit post, she wrote: "I've talked to Jack multiple times about keeping the house cleaned, but he claims it's not fair that I don't have to do anything (which isn't true). If the house is kept up, I do dishes, laundry, and meal prep on my days off. Sometimes, I'll bake, too. I'll also be on toddler duty.
"However, once he lets the house go, I don't do anything other than clean the areas my toddler is in so she's not affected by it because she deserves a clean house."
She revealed that despite getting the house "almost clean" on her own thrice, her husband fails to maintain it while she's at work. She added: "He claims it's my fault that the house is trashed because I should do more, yet I work full time because he didn't want to work, which I supported and made more sense financially."
Sympathetic commenters suggested that if her husband is unwilling to meet the expectations of a stay-at-home parent, he should consider employment, and they should think about hiring a nanny or a weekly house cleaner.
One commenter pointed out: "This is the exact same thing as if he were the breadwinner and you were the stay-at-home wife. If he wants chores to be split, then he can contribute financially; if he doesn't, then housework is his job. What your husband is doing is treating you like free room and board with the expectation of you being his live-in maid."
One more person chimed in: "He shouldn't have to do everything, but he should do the majority of chores. Full-time childcare is a job, but that doesn’t mean he gets out of chores. You both should sit down and discuss the childcare and chores arrangements."
