How to cope if you or a loved one are in hospital at Christmas
Max George, lead singer of The Wanted, has revealed he'll be spending Christmas in hospital after doctors discovered "some issues" with his heart.
The 36-year-old star shared the health update in an Instagram post alongside a photo of him giving a thumbs up while lying in a hospital bed.
"Hey everyone, yesterday I felt really unwell and was taken into hospital," he wrote. "Unfortunately after some tests they’ve found that I have some issues with my heart."
While he is awaiting more tests to determine the extent of the problem and what surgery he may need, he said he is expecting it to be a "difficult few weeks/months".
"Christmas in a hospital bed wasn’t exactly what I had planned," he added. "Although this is a huge shock and no doubt a setback, it’s something I’ll take on with all I’ve got. I count myself very lucky that this was caught when it was."
Despite now spending Christmas apart from his actress/singer girlfriend, Maisie Smith, George thanked his "wonderful" partner for her "love and support”, as well as also thanking his family and friends.
How to cope if you're spending Christmas in hospital
Hospital stays can be difficult to deal with at any time of year, but particularly during the festive season.
"Christmas, a time typically filled with warmth, cheer and loved ones, can turn into a poignant reminder of absence when you are hospitalised," explains psychologist Barbara Santini. "This unexpected disruption can trigger a range of emotions, from sadness and anxiety, to anger and frustration."
However, Santini says it is crucial to remember that even in the most challenging circumstances, hope and resilience can prevail.
"By acknowledging these emotions and practising self-compassion, we can navigate this difficult period with greater ease," she adds.
Find comfort in routine
Santini says establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of normality and structure.
Connect with others
Engage with fellow patients or hospital staff. "Sharing experiences and offering support can create a sense of community," Santini explains.
Practice gratitude
Focusing on the positive aspects of life, no matter how small, can uplift your spirits and improve your overall wellbeing.
Tune into your emotions
Psychologist Lee Chambers suggests trying to create as cosy an environment as possible. "Be kind to yourself and don't force yourself to be jolly and festive if you need to focus on recover and rest," he adds.
Look to the future
Chambers says practicing mindfulness for the future can help you see things to look forward to, even if you feel like you are missing out on the day.
How to cope if a loved one is in hospital at Christmas
Finding out that a loved one has to spend Christmas in hospital can be challenging, especially given the festive period is symbolic of togetherness and joy. "It's natural to feel a range of emotions, from sadness to disappointment, and even some guilt," explains Chambers. "But while it may not be what you'd planned or imagined, we can acknowledge those feelings and still find ways to make meaningful moments."
Find a balance between coping and celebration
When it comes to coping, Chambers says it is important to acknowledge how you feel and to process this without judgement. "Upset and disappointment are natural and while it can be full on, a bit of time and space for you to do this will make a real difference.
"Also, trying to be grateful for the things you can still do, whether it's with other family members or for the care being given and the connection that you can still have with the person who's being treated, can bring a hint of positivity," he adds.
Try to embrace the spirit of Christmas
While it's not easy, focussing on the spirit of Christmas, a time of connection, gratitude and hope, can be a powerful driver in finding ways to share that spirit, despite the circumstances.
Find a way to mark the day
When it comes to celebrating, Chambers advises considering how you can bring the festivities to the patient, from decoration to memories. "And if there are ways to share a meal in person or over technology," he adds. "Hospitals and employees will have their own ways to mark Christmas for patients that maybe you can be a part of or align with."
Create new traditions
Adapt festive traditions to fit the circumstances. "A small, intimate gathering or a virtual celebration can still bring joy and meaning," Santini says.
Be in the moment
While physical limitations may exist, Santini recommends focussing on the present. "Engage in simple pleasures like reading, listening to music, or watching a favourite show. Mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing can help manage stress and anxiety, promoting a sense of calm and peace," she adds.
Connect deeply
Use technology to bridge the distance. "Video calls can foster a sense of togetherness, allowing you to share stories, laughter and love," explains Santini.
Prioritise self-care
Caring for a loved one can be emotionally and physically draining. "Make time for yourself, whether it's a short walk, a relaxing bath, or spending time with friends and family," Santini suggests.
Seek support
Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or support groups. "Sharing your experiences can provide comfort and understanding," Santini explains.
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