Dining across the divide: ‘He said you need strong leaders. Then he referenced Boris Johnson and Nigel Farage’

Bob, 67, Newton Abbot, Devon

Occupation Retired businessman, used to run a small tool-making company

Voting record Conservative for the majority of his life; now doesn’t vote

Amuse bouche Bought a cabin in the Canadian mountains in 2010 and splits his time between the UK and Canada

JC, 64, Exeter, Devon

Occupation Recently retired from the NHS

Voting record Lifelong Labour voter, often reluctant – in the last election, voted Green

Amuse bouche Is in a jazz group, singing John Coltrane, Stevie Wonder, anything from the canon and beyond

For starters

Bob One of the first questions out my mouth was, “Do you work for the NHS?” And she said, “Why would you say that?” And I said, “It’s just a feeling.” And she said, “I’ve worked for the NHS all my life.” I’d just thought, I’m a small business owner, what would my opposite be? Probably a civil servant.

JC When he found out where I used to work, he sort of went, “Huh, I would have thought so.”

Bob I had the roast beef.

JC I had the vegetarian roast.

The big beef

Bob We talked about second-home ownership. I don’t think you can stop that. You might think I’m biased because I’m guilty of it, but it’s different for me and my wife, because one day we’ll choose between living here or in Canada. Here, we’re constantly told we can’t afford this or we can’t afford that. Do we have a need for social housing in this country? By the sounds of things, we have a need for quite a lot of social housing because, back in the 80s, Margaret Thatcher decided that every Englishman should have his own castle and flogged them all off.

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JC For me, it’s not so much about second or third homes, it’s properties standing empty. I feel the same about landlords who don’t maintain their properties. I gave passionate examples of younger colleagues of mine trying to find somewhere to live; just to rent, you have to bid over the asking price – it’s a real Squid Game scenario. I think he approves of social housing, but wants to shrink the state.

Bob Surely we need a new social housing building programme? After the second world war, Winston Churchill got dumped out of office because the people of the country said, “We’ve endured five years of hardship and war, where’s our reward?” Suddenly Attlee comes in, and despite the fact that we were bankrupt, we managed to start the NHS and the biggest housing programme we’ve ever seen. Broke or bankrupt, it’s all bollocks, isn’t it? You just have to take the long view.

JC He said you need to be bold and take risks, and what you need for that is strong leaders. Then he referenced Boris Johnson and Nigel Farage, and I said, “But those two are functionally useless.” Later, he referenced Churchill and Angela Merkel, who fit the “leader” description a little better.

Sharing plate

JC He said, “I’ve been told I lack empathy,” and then he explained it’s because he’s an engineer, and you have to be very detached and focused on what you do. And I thought, listening to what he said, there’s a lot of similarity between engineering and medicine: it has to be evidenced; the consequences of getting it wrong are significant. I found him to be quite compassionate and insightful, I wouldn’t agree with the lack of empathy. I asked who said that, and he said, “My wife.”

Bob As engineers, you’ve got to have a final physical thing that works. It’s not a set of ideas, it’s a finished item. So you’re striving for the best way of doing something. And it does mean, particularly in manufacturing, you have to be looking over the next horizon. You can’t take the short view.

For afters

Bob We discovered very early on that we had a lot in common during Covid.

JC He was making testing devices for frontline staff, I was working on a vaccine trial – we were working to the same ends.

Bob I think of all these wonderful people – engineers, research scientists – who spent hours and hours and hours sleeping under their desks, doing 80- to 100-hour weeks.

Takeaways

Bob It was delightful. We shook hands. I don’t think we’ll be seeing each other again.

JC It was curious. I think maybe he came ready for battle, then didn’t find it.

Additional reporting: Kitty Drake

• Bob and JC ate at The Fat Pig in Exeter

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