Bride's Sister Refused to Attend Her Wedding Because It Wasn't in a Church: 'I Can't Get Over It'

Now, the bride's parents are demanding she forgive her sister, according to a post on Reddit

A bride says she "can't get over" her sister's choice not to attend her wedding because it wasn't held in a church.

In a post on Reddit's "Wedding Drama" forum, the bride wrote that her sister, who is religious, "begged for us to have our wedding in a church, we didn't — and she refused to come." Her explanation was that not getting married in a church "was going against everything she is as a person."

Now, despite the fact that her sister never apologized for willingly missing her big day, the bride's parents are demanding that she forgive her sibling.

"But I really can’t get over her rude and selfish behavior," the bride noted.

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The post received more than 500 comments, with most people sympathizing with the bride and understanding her dismay at being asked to forgive her sister.

"How is it right, on any planet in any time-space continuum, that your sister should be able to dictate where you have your wedding, and then have your parents support her?" one person asked.

"That's not only not okay, that's incredibly hurtful and disrespectful," they continued. "Tell your parents to step up and realize your sister is being ridiculous. I wouldn't be able to get over it either. You are absolutely in the right to be upset."

Another chimed in, "I hate it that it’s always the victim who’s expected to fix the situation."

Others suggested that the bride's parents were blatantly favoring her sister.

"Goodness! Tell me you have a favorite child without telling me she's your favorite," one person commented. " 'Oh, just change your wedding venue because your sister doesn't like it. Oh, and just be the bigger person and reach out to forgive her for not going to your wedding.' Sheesh!"

Several people wondered if the bride's sister turns down invites to any and all weddings not held in a church.

"So does she boycott her friends' weddings if they aren't in a church?" one commenter questioned. "I have been to many indoor and outdoor weddings in all sorts of places, including in edifices belonging to religions I don't practice. They have all, without exception, been lovely and expressed the two people getting married, not anybody else."

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"How is attending a wedding not in a church an affront to her?" a second Redditor wrote. "Has she attended other weddings that haven't been in a church? Is any church acceptable or does it have to be a church of her denomination? If you had gotten married in a Buddhist temple would she have attended?"

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One commenter prompted the bride to consider what could happen next if she gives in to her parents' wishes and forgives her sister.

"You know if you grovel for her forgiveness as your parents expect you to do that the next fight with her will be if you decide to have children, how you decide to raise them in regards to religion," they wrote. "She will beg and bully and expect you to raise YOUR children by HER standards."

Another person told the bride to shrug off her sister's behavior, especially as she is the one who needs to be earning the forgiveness.

"Your sister needs to be the bigger person here! She tried to make your wedding all about her and her feeling when her feelings did not matter because it was your wedding," they wrote. "Cut your losses and move forward and enjoy your beautiful life and be happy."