Bride Asked for 'Simple' Bachelorette Party, but Maid of Honor Planning Pricy Bash No One Can Afford to Attend

• Although a bride requested a "simple and accessible" bachelorette party, her best friend planning it appears to have gone against her wishes

• "Saw my friends at the bar last Friday and they told [me] they couldn’t come to my bachelorette party because it was going to be quite the trip and they don’t have money for that," the bride wrote in a post on Reddit

• Now, the bride wants to take back planning control because she's "scared" her friend will make her party attendees "pay a lot of money"

A bride is contemplating taking over the planning of her bachelorette party.

The "stunned" bride explained in a post on Reddit's "Wedding Planning" forum that her best friend is going overboard for her bachelorette party in April against her wishes. The bride originally wanted to organize a "simple" bachelorette party herself, but accepted her friend's offer to do so. She now regrets that decision.

"Saw my friends at the bar last Friday and they told [me] they couldn’t come to my bachelorette party because it was going to be quite the trip and they don’t have money for that," said the bride, who is getting married in July.

This left the Paris-based bride in shock. The last thing she wanted was her friends to have to skip out on her party because of financial restraints.

"I thought I made myself clear that I wanted something simple and accessible," the bride continued. "I immediately sent her a message to tell her that my bach needs to be around Paris because I want my friends to come. I want something simple and I even told her that I could rent everything."

Although the bride knows her friend travels around France more, "likes to party multiple times a week" and is "more outgoing" than her, she thought she would respect her request of having a more affordable, low-key party.

At the time of her conversation with her friend a month ago, when she initially allowed her to have the planning responsibility, the bride told her about a party bus that tours Paris for four hours. She liked this idea because it would allow all the women to be home by 2 a.m.

"I was open to going to a nightclub if the group was down for it too," the bride suggested to her friend. "Or to rent a nice small castle in the suburbs because I slept there a couple of times and it was nice."

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After the bride was told by many of her pals that they would be unable to attend the bachelorette party, the bride sent her friend links to the party bus and castle again in hopes that she'd alter the plans to something more accessible.

"BUT I can’t stop thinking about this," the Redditor said. "I am scared that she will make my friends pay a lot of money. She has the means to pay but most of my friends earn minimum wage or are still students."

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Despite the friend respecting her wishes on everything else, the bride no longer wants her to plan her bachelorette party. But she doesn't want to "hurt" her "very excited" friend.

"I want to word it in a nice way. She is the officiant at my ceremony and she is coordinating the surprises my guests want to do at the wedding," the bride explained. "I think she is like an MOH for the American brides. But we don’t have a term for this in France."

She concluded her post by asking Redditors for help on how to gently handle the situation.

In response, Reddit users advised the bride to set clearer boundaries with her friend about her bachelorette party expectations. The majority of commenters also suggested that it would be better for the bride to only help with planning instead of completely taking it over so that some party details would still be a "surprise" for her.

"It is sweet of your friend to want to take the stress off of you, however it is still your bach at the end of the day, so I think you should just take a moment to sit down with her and lay out your expectations (events, expenses, what dates, guest list, etc...)," one person commented.

Another user wrote in part: "Make it very clear and even give a budget limit if that would help. Make sure she realizes that where money is involved, it should be a group decision. Etc."

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