20 People Who Ended Friendships With Their BFFs For Very, Very, Veryyyyy Valid Reasons
Recently Reddit user throwbackblue asked the community, "Why did you end your friendship with your best friend?"
Unfortunately, folks had a lot of heartbreaking stories to share. Friendships that were once beautiful turned pretty sour, and the reasons for terminating them were all 100% valid.
So, here are some people who ended their friendships with their BFFs:
Note: Some submissions include topics of suicide. Please proceed with caution.
1."I ended the friendship after lending money. It’s true what they say: money ruins relationships."
"A decade-old friendship ended due to this. We were a group of eight who had been friends since about 7th grade. This friend called each of us to ask for money because he said he couldn’t pay rent.
It turned out he was buying weed and not paying rent. It felt like a betrayal, especially since we were all struggling and some of us had kids. It felt rude."
2."Every problem she had was an 'emergency,' and I needed to drop everything for her and give her my undivided immediate attention. But when I was having a rough time, the reply I got from her was, 'Stop your shit.'"
"I would drop everything to be there for her during any and everything, but she couldn’t show up for me. She and her boyfriend would get into these big fights and BOTH of them would call me and bring me right into the middle.
It got to the point when I would see either of their names pop up I would just cry before answering. It's safe to say my mental health is THRIVING now."
3."My dad died. I asked if a few of my friends would hang out with me and have a low-key night playing video games. I told them I didn't want to have a big party. They said that was cool. I showed up and they invited a ton of people for a huge house party. Then they got pissed that I was 'just sulking on the couch' and were shitty to me. Our friendship never recovered, and now we don't talk at all."
4."I met some new people, and I noticed that I liked hanging out with them more because they didn't make me feel like crap. I didn't really notice it at the time, but looking back on it now, I realize that the guy I considered my best friend was actually my biggest bully. He was constantly insulting me, embarrassing me in front of other people, and belittling me. I just thought that's what friends did. I had to make real friends to learn that's not the case."
5."My ex-boyfriend got my best friend pregnant. Both of them are out of my life now."
6."We were friends for 20 years. She didn't drive, so pretty much during our entire friendship, I would take her grocery shopping every week. I took her cats to the vet and helped her when she lost her house. For 20 years, I asked her for nothing. My husband ended up suddenly being diagnosed with brain cancer. The day he was released from the hospital after having a tumor the size of a lemon removed, I called in a prescription he needed and our local pharmacy didn't have it. So, I would have to drive an hour round-trip, and my husband wasn't able to handle that amount of time in the car. So, I called to ask my friend if she could stay with him while I got his meds. She told me no because she wanted to go to the store with her boyfriend. I called my neighbor, and she watched my husband instead. I never talked to my friend again. It's been almost 10 years."
7."A couple of months before my wedding, my friend told me he didn't want to be my best man anymore via WhatsApp. The conversation that followed revealed that he was extremely jealous of the relationship my now wife and I have. We had been friends for 20 years."
8."In 2018, I was really sick with kidney failure and was in and out of the ER multiple times before I finally got diagnosed with CKD (chronic kidney disease). My friend didn't like that I was getting a lot of attention from our other friends and people in our small town. She decided to go around school saying I was lying about being sick and that I just wanted attention."
"When I was finally getting better and was actually home for more than a few days, she came over with a few of her friends and was laughing, trying to embarrass me in front of them, trying to get me to say I was, in fact, lying about being sick.
It wasn't until I pulled out all the meds I was on and proved that I was yellowish in the skin (it was fucking obvious when you actually looked at my eyes).
I embarrassed her in front of everyone. She cried and played 'the victim' — I ran out of the house, and I haven't talked to her since.
It's a bit sad because we were friends since kindergarten, but I guess that's what jealousy does to people 🤷♀️."
9."We were friends for over 40 years (friends since childhood). We went into business together, and he completely screwed me over, taking most of the money with him and leaving me in crushing debt. Years later, I asked why he had done it. His answer was, 'Because you're an atheist. You rejected god, so you deserved everything you got.' And that was that."
10."We grew apart. It sounds cliché, but life took us in different directions. I got married, moved to a different city, and had kids. He stayed in our hometown, stayed single, and we just stopped having common interests. The calls went from every day to once a week, then once a month, and then…nothing. Sometimes that’s just how life goes."
11."It happened because of a girl. I was dating a girl, and at the time when we were arguing, she cried to my friend. As a result, they started to develop feelings for each other. She left me and started dating my friend. My friend betrayed me for a girl. After half a year, I laughed when I found out that they had broken up. He traded friendship for a six-month relationship. What the fuck?"
12."We kept on arguing about politics and religion. We didn't share the same principles. I just hated talking about this kind of thing because it's just a useless and endless topic, but she always kept on talking about it. It was so annoying."
13."Because I terminated a complicated pregnancy. She sure wears that pussy hat and feminist sweatshirt proudly, though."
14."I got a new job last year an hour away from my hometown, which me and my friend both moved back to after I got out of college and he got out of the army. I started dating a girl who just bought a house in the town I moved to. This caused a year-long dramafest of epic proportions. He started getting upset that I never planned things or invited him anywhere, which was partially true. I was also doing a master's program on top of moving and starting a new full-time job with the commute. I would occasionally head back to my hometown and invite him to places both over here and over there. But, he continually blew me off or wasn’t happy with my suggestions for activities."
15."She told my kids they were the reason I tried to attempt suicide. We shared 25 years of friendship, and she was someone I talked to every day, no matter what state or country she was stationed in. I don’t even have words to describe the emotion I felt. Heartbreak, anger, confusion…none of them applied. I was just numb to it all."
16."She had extremely high friendship needs that started to drown me. It was like managing a romantic relationship instead of a friendship. Her anger was also super unpredictable, and she felt like everyone was always out to get her. This would result in her being a huge jerk over perceived slights (not just to me, but to everyone). I started to get massive anxiety any time I visited home and had to hang out with her. It sucks because she also had good qualities, and I still do love her. I wish we could have a friendly relationship where we catch up every so often, but it’s not in the cards."
17."She pressured me to do stuff I was uncomfortable with. She had COVID and hung around me, knowing that my mom had health issues and could’ve possibly died. We weren't able to go back to how things were, so we ended our friendship."
18."It was 2016, and I was in love with her. I had been since the second grade, so it was 16 years of this (and to be honest, I still am). When she got engaged, I decided I had to tell her how I felt. She knew (not surprising) and was really nice about it, and totally willing to just be friends. But my heart and my head couldn't stand that — it was killing me, and it wasn't fair to either of us. So I stopped writing to her. I specialize in unrequited love."
19."I cared way too much, and they didn't care at all. I had feelings that I couldn't control that led to me being exploited and emotionally abused until I finally stood up for myself. I got blocked the moment I showed even the slightest hint of a spine. Years later, I got a very hollow and fake apology sent via 'vanishing message mode' on Instagram. I hate that it still bothers me on a nearly daily basis, but once I find a therapist I can afford, I hope to someday maybe get through this."
20.And finally, "My friend didn't show up to my wedding, and I never heard from him again. No apology, no explanation. Two weeks before, he asked if he could bring a last-minute date. I told him absolutely — he had been my best friend since the fourth grade, after all. But then an 18-year friendship just disappeared. My other best friend moved to California without telling me, but he told my family. I haven't spoken to him since. Our relationship had been a bit rocky since I got married, and he wanted to hang out every single night. Friends can be so disappointing."
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
