"I Follow His Wife On Instagram": 15 Coworker Sex Affairs That Were Messier Than Anything On A TV Show
Reddit user Crafty_Scientist8913 asked the community, "People who had sex with coworkers, what is your relationship with them like now?"
Their experiences varied, from either supremely messy to super duper romantic. Either way, hooking up with a coworker is risky business, and you just never know what'll happen.
So, here are both sides to the story:
Note: Some submissions include topics of workplace harrassment and alcohol abuse. Please proceed with caution.
1."I recently dipped my pen in the company ink. She was substantially older than me — she couldn't keep her hands off of me, which is unusual for me. It was very understood she was fresh out of a relationship and that I was a rebound for her, but we had mutually discussed being friends with benefits. I had felt like a wonderful FWB situation was beginning to bloom. We had sex — it was great, and she tells me it's some of the best sex she's ever had. She tried to make it abundantly clear the sex was great for her, and at a minimum, I believe it wasn't a bad time for her. But ever since, trying to set something up with her has been like pulling teeth. And whenever we would get something set up, she would make up an excuse not to, all the while leading me on like she's still stuck in 'horny jail.'"
"Well, after a few weeks of her flaking on me, I stopped reaching out. Three weeks of silence go by, then I finally break the silence.
She stands by the fact that she is a newly single, free woman, and she wants to explore that freedom and that she will do what she wants when she wants. That, and she felt I liked her too much. So, it would be best if we stop getting together.
But all the while, she was fucking a different coworker."
2."I worked in food service for 14 years without ever sleeping with anyone, by choice, mind you. Then, this woman started working there. She was the most strikingly beautiful woman I had ever met, and she was engaged. We got to know each other as coworkers do and then I became smitten. We then began to text each other outside of work without an explicit word between us. I loved her. I ended up telling her that we needed to stop talking because I was developing feelings. To this day, it was the hardest thing I ever did. I drank and cried myself into oblivion after I told her because I had to move on."
"One week later, she told me she broke it off with her fiancé. She moved in with me a month later. It was the best two years of my life.
Then, one day, she told me she wanted to be by herself."
3."This goes back over 15 years. My coworker and I slept together after the company gala. Black tie, open bar, both single, hotel rooms paid for by the company...it was kind of hard not to end up in bed together. We remained friends after, and are connected on LinkedIn (no other social media platforms). We knew it was a one-night stand. In fact, his wife and I follow each other on Instagram. She and I went to high school together. They had just met when we slept together — I wasn't going to mess that up for him. She's perfect for him."
4."Hooking up with my coworker is one of my biggest regrets. He made it seem like he actually liked me, but then slowly started communicating less, and suddenly had a girlfriend. I had to work with him for another year after, acting like everything was okay. The cherry on top was that my coworkers would make comments about how we'd be so cute together, obviously not knowing about anything that happened. I wish I could've told him how much he hurt me — don't shit where you eat, folks!"
5."My coworker's mom was my sales manager. In the middle of the pandemic, we had late nights in the office. I liked her, but didn’t want to shit where I ate. Her mom kept egging it on and pushed me to date her — I decided why not and went out with her. It was a lonely pandemic. We went on a few dates, and I drunkenly asked her to be official. A month into it, I started thinking we weren’t right for each other, and I wanted to end it, but I really liked my job. A few days before I was going to end it, I found out she was pregnant. I ended up doing what I felt was right and married her. It was a tough first year, but we’re inseparable now. She straightened me up, and now I’m sober and have worked my way up to being director. So now I’m married, and I'm her mom’s boss. It’s a very strange dynamic, but it all worked out in the end. Turns out I really did like her, and I was just a 'fuckboy' who needed to sober up and get his life together. Life’s funny."
6."I made the very dumb mistake of falling in love with her while she just used me as a rebound because she was mad at the guy she eventually got engaged to. We still work in VERY close quarters, so it's fucking hard. I might quit because it's too much."
7."Two of my coworkers had sex during a summer party last year while being witnessed by some of my other coworkers. They barely spoke together before it happened, but now it’s even worse. I can almost always feel the awkward atmosphere when they are in a room together now."
8."My coworker, who I slept with at the office actually, became my friend's girlfriend (I didn't know at the time). A while later she moved to another city. We had no contact and I didn’t know where she moved. Then, a couple of years later, I was at a party in my hometown where I met an old friend. We hugged and he yelled, 'Nice to see you, man. You fucked my girlfriend!' I was confused."
9."I slept with a coworker once, and it turned the work environment very toxic. So, I vowed to never do that again. A few years later, I found myself working at another company with a very beautiful colleague. There was a lot of mutual attraction, but since we both had bad experiences with work romances, we kept it professional. She started dating a guy, so the flirting cooled off. Eventually we both moved onto other jobs and lost contact. Then months later, out of the blue, she called me and pointed out we were no longer coworkers. We've been married for over five years now."
10."We dated and banged profusely for a few months, then became the best of friends. She moved in with me shortly after as a roommate. We continued to bang every night after work. There’s too much sexual tension that builds in the office — we might give a relationship another try once our lives are in order. We made an agreement not to see others in the meantime for obvious health reasons. Being around each other is fulfilling enough."
11."We're more of acquaintances now than just friends. Something I learned is you don't tell your current partner about your sexcapades with past coworkers and who they are. Any form of reunion/get-together with your past colleagues will just be a huge mess with your partner, regardless if you're nowhere near interested in those people anymore."
12."I slept with a few girls at my job and dated one of them. When one of the girls found out I was dating the new girl, she literally blew up on me in front of everyone. I feel like there’s a lesson here somewhere, but I have learned absolutely nothing 😂😂😂."
13."In my early twenties, we 'secretly' had a brief hook-up period while working at the same restaurant (I'm sure everyone knew), then decided it probably wasn't the best idea. So we called it off. I was developing feelings and was an overall mess at this point in my life. I was a server, and he was a manager. We had been friends for a few years prior, including before working together, so we stayed friends after that. We dated other people throughout the next few years, yadda yadda yadda. Fast forward to me on the precipice of getting out of a two-year relationship that I was really struggling with, very unhappy in, and trying to figure out how to leave. I was leaning a lot on friends at that time, and one day, I got lunch with my ex-coworker."
"I cracked at some point and began venting about my situation. He drank too much sake with his sushi and out came his confession that he wishes we'd never cut off our fling from years ago.
I remember being able to hear my heartbeat in my ears, sort of panicked, and left. I had been certain the hookup period was completely casual/physical to him.
It certainly threw me for a loop. I took my time to think about it, and after my inevitable breakup, we decided to give it a real shot.
According to him, he never liked seeing me with the other guy, but never wanted to step on any toes if I was happy. He's always like, 'I was playing the long con, I swear!'
We'll be together six years in June!"
14."I ended up quitting the position because each and every day it was worse than the breakup. The snide comments and underhanded insults became daily, and she was friends with the owner, who also started becoming a problem. It was best to move on, so I did. She ended up getting fired."
15.And finally, "When I became a bank executive, I quickly learned that there were many office affairs going on. It seemed like everybody was fucking everybody — being married was irrelevant. I remember one work trip where the executive teams all got together in St. Thomas for strategic planning. I woke up super early to go for a run and passed one of my reports exiting a coworker's room. The dude was married with a newborn! He just froze when he saw me. I shook my head and kept going. As I approached the elevator, another employee (not my report) was exiting the room of another coworker. He was also married — everybody was married. WTF. My wife at the time was a bank executive at a competing bank and had an affair while on a work trip. That ended our relationship. I'm married again (six years now) with two kids. My wife travels a lot for work, and to be honest, I really have trust issues with it. There's so much PTSD from my banking career."
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
