Giovanna Fletcher is done with people parent-shaming her husband Tom

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Giovanna Fletcher is fed up of people questioning her husband's dad skills [Photo: Instagram/giovannafletcher]
Giovanna Fletcher is fed up of people questioning her husband’s dad skills [Photo: Instagram/giovannafletcher]

Giovanna Fletcher is fed up of her husband, Tom Fletcher’s, parenting skills being called into question.

Taking to Instagram to praise Tom for being a “hands-on” dad, the mum to three-year-old Buzz and one-year-old Buddy, explained that constantly being asked how involved her husband is in their children’s life has started to bother her.

“There’s one question that has started grating on me, and that’s: ‘Is Tom a hands-on dad?’, along with: ‘What’s he like as a father?’ or ‘Has he surprised you in his new role?’” she wrote alongside an image of Tom with their two boys.

“I’ll say straight away that Tom is an amazing dad. He is one half of the parenting team and we very much do everything together. I feel fully supported in the knowledge that parenting, for us, is a mutual responsibility.”

IS TOM A HANDS ON DAD? Over the last three years there's one question that has started grating on me, and that’s 'Is Tom a hands-on dad?' It's something I get asked a lot, along with 'What's he like as a father?' or 'Has he surprised you in his new role?' I'll say straight away that Tom is an amazing dad. He is one half of the parenting team and we very much do everything together. I feel fully supported in the knowledge that parenting, for us, is a mutual responsibility. I wouldn't be able to have children and keep working in the way I am without having Tom to tag team with. I guess the thing that has started to irk me about the above questions, is that no one would ever ask Tom what I was like as a mum, or ponder over my involvement, or dare to ask if I was any good at it. So the fact Tom, and all Dads, are having their skills questioned as though being 'hands-on' is optional is a murky area for me. I feel like we've moved on as a society. Dads are more involved. Well, in my eyes, they should be. Although I do understand that it’s not always possible even if they'd like to be. With more and more women going back to work it's impossible for them to keep such a tight hold of the reigns. Control and responsibly have to be passed over to the dads, because parenting is a full time role within itself and if both parents are out working and keeping the family afloat financially then it's only right that the demands of family life get distributed equally too. Don't dumb down my husband or any other dad who's decided to accept the shift and readjust accordingly for the good of the family. Don't treat dads who interact with their children like they’re doing something alien that warrants your praise. If you wouldn't do it to a mum, don't do it to a dad. So, to all the dads out there doing the best for their families – whether you've stopped your 'day job' to take over the main bulk of responsibilities, whether you're sharing everything as evenly as possible, or whether you're out doing shift work and working all the hours possible to provide for your family – whatever you're doing with your family in mind, thank you. HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

A post shared by Giovanna Fletcher (@mrsgifletcher) on Jun 18, 2017 at 1:46am PDT

Giovanna went on to say that she wouldn’t be able to keep working if Tom didn’t help her with the children as much as he did.

“I guess the thing that started to irk me about those questions, is that no one would ever ask Tom what I was like as a mum, or ponder over my involvement, or dare to ask if I was any good at it,” she continued.

“So the fact Tom, and all dads, are having their skills questioned as though being ‘hands-on’ is optional, is a murky area for me. I feel like we’ve moved on as a society. Dads are more involved. Well, in my eyes, they should be.”

The author and TV presenter then went on to urge others not to “dumb down her husband” or any other dad who has chosen to juggle their work/life balance in order to accommodate their families.

“Don’t treat dads who interact with their children like they’re doing something alien that warrants your praise,” she said.

“If you wouldn’t do it to a mum, don’t do it to a dad.”

My dreamboats! ❤️❤️❤️xx

A post shared by Giovanna Fletcher (@mrsgifletcher) on May 7, 2017 at 5:58pm PDT

Giovanna finished her post by thanking dads who are doing the best for their families.

“Whether you’ve stopped your ‘day job’ to take over the main bulk of responsibilities, whether you’re sharing everything as evenly as possible, or whether you’re out doing shift work and working all the hours possible to provide for your family – whatever you’re doing with your family in mind, thank you,” she concluded.

Since posting her dad-positive post it has been liked more than 60K times and received praise from other parents thanking her for recognising the important role many dads play.

“I absolutely love this post!! My husband is a doting father, people are always surprised and say “oh you’re so lucky to have him”, “your father wouldn’t have done that”, or my favourite “it’s not fair for your husband to do so much, you need to stop working”,” one mother wrote.

“Like really? We both work to give our babies the best we can. And it’s so hard trying to juggle but so much easier knowing we are in it together, no competition, not this new “today’s day and age”, just your standard co-parenting that people do in the 21st century,” she continued.

I want in on this! ????????❤️xx

A post shared by Giovanna Fletcher (@mrsgifletcher) on Apr 26, 2017 at 10:03am PDT

“Well said!,” another added. “I hate it when people say what a good dad my husband is because he will get up and do stuff with the children or he takes them out or just normal day to day things like get them ready for school/Childminder’s while I’m at work. He wanted these children as much as I did there fore we share the responsibility of parenting them. He is a brilliant daddy but not for the reasons above just because he is!”

“My partner has had people say to him …”oh out with daddy…where’s mummy” like its an alien concept for dads to look after the kiddies,” another women added.

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