Woman who lacked confidence and had never had a boyfriend at 26 tells how she lost 8 stone and is now a personal trainer ready to find ‘The One’

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A newly qualified personal trainer, who once avoided going out because she “hated” how she looked and who had never had a boyfriend, has dropped over 8st – and now maintains her new figure by lifting weights.

Aishah Sheikh, 30, from Uxbridge, London, lost six dress sizes and says part of her motivation when she vowed to lose weight aged 26 was to regain her confidence.

And now Aishah, who has had a couple of relationships since she decided to change her body and life, feels ready to take on dating properly.

Aishah has dropped six dress sizes. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah has dropped six dress sizes. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She said: “I’ll never forget the day I had my epiphany. It was July 4, 2018, and I woke and thought, ‘I’m sick of this.’

“At the time, I was working for a construction company as a project manager.

“I would just go to work and come home. I had friends but I avoided going out because I hated how I looked.”

Aishah wants other women to feel confident in the weight section of the gym. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah wants other women to feel confident in the weight section of the gym. (Collect/PA Real Life)

Weighing 18st 8lbs and wearing a size 20, Aishah says she felt like she was not living her life to the fullest.

She said: “I just kept myself busy with work and I’d try fad diets that I’d lose 20 to 30 pounds on before piling it back on, and more.

“I was 26, I wasn’t socialising with friends, I wasn’t travelling, I had never had a boyfriend, and I realised the only person standing in my way was me.”

Before her weight loss, Aishah was a size 20. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Before her weight loss, Aishah was a size 20. (Collect/PA Real Life)

That day, Aishah contacted a personal trainer and told him that she wanted to lose 100lbs, which is just over 7st.

She said: “He told me he didn’t care about 100lbs, he just wanted me to lose 1lb. That was the kind of mindset I needed, to just lose 1lb at a time.

“So I started training with weights and cardio at the gym and after three months, I started looking at my diet too.”

  • Breakfast – four slices of buttery toast with jam and a bowl of crunchy nut cereal

  • Lunch – triple sandwich meal deal with crisps and a fizzy drink. A cup of tea and four to six chocolate digestive biscuits

  • Dinner – fish or chicken with a plateful of rice

  • Snack – four packets of crisps

She added: “Because I have polycystic ovaries, I should have been even more conscious of my diet so I decided it was time to do something.

“I cut out the secret snacking I was doing. I would hide packets of crisps and chocolate in my room, so I knew that needed to stop.

“I figured out a meal plan and researched online to understand what I should and shouldn’t be eating.”

Aishah’s goal was to lose 100lbs. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah’s goal was to lose 100lbs. (Collect/PA Real Life)

With a mixture of gym workouts and cutting out fatty foods, Aishah spent the next two years slimming down.

And on March 4, 2020, she finally hit her 100lb goal.

Aishah said: “I had to double check that the scales were correct because I just could not believe I had finally done it.”

The 30-year-old has lost over 8st. (Collect/PA Real Life)
The 30-year-old has lost over 8st. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “I’ve lost more weight since and I’m finally at a point where I feel like I’m at a healthy weight which I want to maintain.”

Now, Aishah weighs a healthy 10st 4lbs and wears a size 8 dress.

She said: “The key to weight loss is not being super strict with yourself but to get back up again when you have a bad day.”

Aishah says the weight has helped her to regain her confidence. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah says the weight has helped her to regain her confidence. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “The majority of my fitness comes from lifting weights and I want to encourage other women not to be afraid of the weights section at the gym.

“I also like to switch my exercises up so I don’t get bored. I’d hate to just run on a treadmill for an hour, instead I do things like pole fitness.

“I started doing pole fitness in May 2021 and it’s become a regular exercise class that I join weekly. It’s actually very tough and takes a lot of strength.”

Aishah made the decision to have skin removal surgery instead of buying a house. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah made the decision to have skin removal surgery instead of buying a house. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “There’s a taboo around pole fitness which is a shame because it’s a great workout.

“I’m proud to say I pole dance to improve my strength.”

But despite beating her weight loss goal, Aishah felt that her journey was not yet over.

  • Breakfast – coffee with collagen powder

  • Snack – protein yoghurt

  • Lunch – salmon

  • Snack – protein bar and coffee

  • Dinner – chicken with vegetables

She said: “I struggled a lot with loose skin on my stomach and thighs.

“I tried every exercise going to get rid of it but there was nothing I could do.

“I couldn’t tolerate it anymore and I found it so frustrating.”

Aishah does pole fitness to improve her strength. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah does pole fitness to improve her strength. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “I had done the work to lose the weight and I’d kept it off, but there was nothing else I could do myself to control the loose skin.”

In September 2020, Aishah underwent a 360 body lift to remove her excess skin from her torso.

She said: “I had the procedure done at The Plastic Surgery Group on Harley Street, it cost me a few thousand pounds and it was a toss-up between getting the surgery or getting a mortgage.”

Aishah says she is proud of her scars. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah says she is proud of her scars. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “At the end of the day, I decided that I couldn’t live with my body the way it was anymore so there would be no point in living in a house with that body.

“I stand by the decision.”

Now, Aishah plans to get further skin removal surgery in December 2021.

Aishah says she is able to help other people with their weight loss journeys because she understands what they are going through. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah says she is able to help other people with their weight loss journeys because she understands what they are going through. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She said: “I’m planning to have a thigh lift and then hopefully I’ll be done with skin removal.

“I have a big scar around my waist from my procedure last year. I’m hopeful that it will eventually fade. It’ll take a very long time to do so but I wouldn’t change it.

“The surgery was necessary for me to help me get my confidence back.”

In March 2020, Aishah finally hit her 100lb goal. (Collect/PA Real Life)
In March 2020, Aishah finally hit her 100lb goal. (Collect/PA Real Life)

And since her weight loss, Aishah has also decided to tackle the dating world.

She said: “I’ve had a couple of relationships since 2018, with men I met on dating apps but they each ended after a few months and I’ve found it to be a learning curve.

“Some men on dating apps will stop talking to me when they find out I used to be bigger.”

Aishah now weighs a healthy 10st 4lbs. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah now weighs a healthy 10st 4lbs. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “One man actually told me that once he’d seen my before pictures on Instagram that was all he could see me as.

“Other men were very nice about it and said that it didn’t bother them.

“Either way, it’s definitely a process but I haven’t found ‘The One’ yet.”

Prior to her weight loss, Aishah had never had a boyfriend. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Prior to her weight loss, Aishah had never had a boyfriend. (Collect/PA Real Life)

In the meantime, Aishah has set herself another new goal – to switch career paths, and last month she became a qualified personal trainer.

She said: “People know that I’m not going to judge them because I’ve been there.

“When they tell me that they’ve had a bad day and they’ve fallen off the wagon, I remind them that one hot day doesn’t make a summer.”

Aishah is now a qualified personal trainer. (Collect/PA Real Life)
Aishah is now a qualified personal trainer. (Collect/PA Real Life)

She added: “You had a bad meal or if that meal spiralled into the whole day? Fine. Let’s get back on track tomorrow.

“I love what I do and sometimes I find it hard to believe I’ve achieved all of this.

“I’m very proud of my journey and I’m even proud of my scars – they are proof of the work I have done to get where I am today.”

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