Why you need to know about Fishing when it comes to dating
If you’re at all familiar with the world of online dating, you will have already heard about the likes of breadcrumming, benching and ghosting but what about fishing? It’s pretty common, apparently.
Fishing describes the act of reaching out to multiple people on dating apps that you think you could have a chance with and waiting to see who will respond. Out of those that do, you then select who you want to reply to (now that you know you’re in with a chance) and ignore those who don’t float your boat.
Essentially, it’s like casting your net, seeing who bites the bait, taking a look at your “catch” and then throwing the “fish” you don’t want back into the sea.
Fairly brutal, right?
The problem is that typically conversations will start with standard messages like “how’s it going?” or “what are you up to?” so it can be pretty difficult to detect when you’re actually being “fished” as opposed to just having a laid-back chat with a potential suitor.
The things to watch out for are generic messages (these are likely to have been copied and pasted to a range of people), messages late at night (particularly on the weekends), slow replies and a lack of interest in taking time to actually find out about your life, even in the initial stages of messaging.
Depressingly, this technique is undeniably common - if you’ve not been fished, you might well have fished yourself - but also a reminder that finding love online can be a bit of a numbers game. However, if you stick to the advice above on how to spot it, and avoid doing it yourself, there’s everything to play for.
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