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Vashtie's City Hall Wedding Outfit

POPSUGAR: Was this casual look somewhat inspired by what you were supposed to wear on your big day?
Vashtie Kola: The intended look for my big ceremony will eventually be designed by my best friend Raul Lopez of Luar. Our inspiration for that look will honor classic wedding traditions (white dress, etc), yet stay true to my personal style. Having said that, it's nothing like my look for City Hall.

PS: Were the items you wore - the Dickies, Nikes, and t-shirt - items you already had in your closet?:
VK: I already had the unworn Dickies work pants (my something new), purchased a few weeks prior at the workwear supply store Dave's New York. I also already owned the Nike Air Force 1 Sneakers (something old), which were a gift from my husband. The Supreme Hanes t-shirt I shopped for because I'm clumsy and every white tee I own is stained. It seemed appropriate to shop for a fresh white tee. My something borrowed was an earring from my photographer, Edwin Ortiz Jr., and my something blue was a blue mouse toy that belonged to my cat Vladimir who has now passed.

"Your self-expression and identity don't need to get lost on your own wedding day."

PS: Did you have any inspiration photos you used to put together the look?
VK: I was never a girl who dreamed of her wedding for many reasons, but mainly because my style never correlated with the weddings I saw. After my proposal, I realized that I could make my wedding look my own and started with that as inspiration. I asked myself questions like, "How do I want to feel on my wedding day?" or "When do I feel most like myself?" I kept coming to the answer that I wanted to be comfortable in pants, sneakers, and a t-shirt.

I also feel like a lot of young women with a style similar to mine have followed my career and been a part of my journey, so I wanted them to see that you don't need a super expensive dress or a destination wedding to get married. Your self-expression and identity don't need to get lost on your own wedding day. We all get caught up in the "who wore what" or "who went where" and tend to create unrealistic standards of what we think our big life moments should look like. Your wedding day is all about you and your partner - that's it. Do what you want and don't get caught up in what others are doing or what people are expecting from you.

Vashtie Wore a Custom Durag Veil For Her City-Hall Wedding to Honor Black Culture

American DJ, artist, director, and designer Vashtie Kola married her Danish partner Emil in March 2020 at City Hall. While the couple was initially supposed to host a typical reception, they swiftly changed their plans due to the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic. Or, as Vashtie puts it on her website, "We had planned a big celebration for 2020, but Rona was like 'nah' and we were like 'bet'."

"[Vashtie's bridal look] is so much more than just something I would 'totally wear' on my own wedding day - it's something I respect."

They arranged to tie the knot alone (although photographer Edwin Ortiz was on hand to snap photos, and Vashtie's stylist James Johnson helped her get dressed while her beauty team helped her with glam.) You'll notice - probably straight off the bat like I did - Vashtie didn't wear a dress. The same way some people fall in love with a designer ballgown made of lace and tulle, I fell in love with Vashtie's bridal look the moment I saw it on her Instagram.

From her Dickies cargo pants to her Nike sneakers and Supreme Hanes tee, it was exactly the type of outfit I wear every day, albeit accessorized with some very standout bridal finishes. Vashtie is a self-described tomboy, too - "my husband fell in love with me as a streetwear/sneaker wearing tomboy," she told me when I caught up with her and she filled me in on every little detail.

"I feel like most wedding looks stem from royals (mainly white) of a long gone era that other people wanted to emulate. While a lot of those styles are nice, I just didn't have much interest in them."

Vashtie worked with designer Evita Loca to create a custom lace-and-beaded durag veil (via text, mind you!), so she could pay homage to her culture. "I chose a durag veil combination to complement my streetwear/sneaker ensemble because I wanted my look to feel like me and to also honor Black culture, which has birthed all of those movements. I feel like most wedding looks stem from royals (mainly white) of a long gone era that other people wanted to emulate. While a lot of those styles are nice, I just didn't have much interest in them. I really wanted my look to represent me and the culture that has inspired me."

Ahead, all the questions I had about Vashtie's gorgeous wedding look answered, in detail, by the one and only Vashtie. If you were wondering, she and Emil just may celebrate all over again in 2021 - and her durag veil will absolutely make another appearance. Even if she wears a dress, I have a feeling her sneakers will be there, too.

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