Tori Spelling Gets Candid About Challenges She Faces Being A Mother
Tori Spelling is getting candid about the trials of motherhood.
On a Wednesday episode of her podcast “misSPELLING,” the “90210” star sat down with psychologist Dr. Hillary Goldsher to discuss the challenges she’s faced raising her five children.
“I feel like I’m constantly letting them down,” Spelling said, her voice cracking. “Because my life is not stable, their lives are not stable.”
“They’re on this rollercoaster with me,” she went on. “Work was really stable for quite a long time. I had multiple shows and multiple product lines and brands and just was a workhorse and an empire.”
At that time, the actor had four of her five children, and said she was able to “provide” for her kids — until things took a turn.
In April, Spelling filed for divorce from her husband, Canadian actor Dean McDermott, and her family was thrust into the spotlight.
“They’re privy to more than I think that I’m comfortable with children being privy to,” she said.
“They’re on this journey with me and I can’t any longer keep things from them, and be like, ‘Everything’s fine.’ And also, I have children that are old enough that read things online. ... They read the false stuff, but they read the semi-accurate stuff and they read the true stuff.”
Spelling said she and McDermott are now “super amicable,” and working through their separation, but that her children primarily live with her. The actor revealed that she doesn’t have the luxury of housekeepers or nannies — a fact she says is “probably really hard for the public to understand.”
“It falls a lot on my 16-year-old to really oversee the family and take care [of them],” Spelling said. “And I feel really guilty when I come home at the end of the day.”
Spelling said her work has been constant over the last three months and that she hasn’t been able to give her kids the attention she feels they deserve. Though she noted that three months “isn’t that long,” she worries that her kids might feel abandoned and feels “super guilty” about it.
